When relationships deteriorate: rules of conductPhoto: Getty
When do relationships deteriorate?
In this case, you need to look for the root cause of such a crisis. It is important not to confuse the consequences with the causes. Externally, cracks in relationships manifest themselves in a standard way:
- stupid grievances;
- meaningless quarrels over trifles;
- offensive misunderstandings;
- podkolki and ridicule;
- complete disregard;
- unreasonable reproaches.
As a rule, the couple is looking for a reason in each other, butit is worth looking for the cause in yourself. Often, we expect from our half of what she simply can not give us. There are no ideal people, so do not expect stars from the sky from your companion.
Relationships are spoiled: we search for the reason
If our other half doesn't give us what we want,we feel internal discontent and mental discomfort. Then every little thing, word, behavior, look and even silence irritates. People are selfish and conceited by nature and expect others to bow down and be helpful, not realizing that those around them suffer from the same shortcoming. A person looks for a scapegoat. It turns out to be the one who is constantly nearby. Internal discontent develops into a conflict. A truce does not solve the problem, and anger, resentment and irritation accumulate inside. Then a spark is enough for a quarrel to flare up again. It turns out to be a vicious circle. You need to change yourself and your attitude to the environment, and not blame your partner for all the discontent.
Why relations deteriorate: mutual accusations
Two individuals who grew up in different families,sooner or later they will start to conflict. We need to learn to seek compromises, be patient and respect each other, no matter what. Most often, mutual accusations sound like this.
Yes, this may be a cause for discontent.But you shouldn't break off relations because of these little things, especially since all this is exaggerated. You need to talk frankly, clarify the misunderstanding, try to understand each other, go to a consultation with a psychologist and put everything in its place. This is hard work, but if it is crowned with success, there will be no end to the joy. Also interesting: