In the new section “WDAY Mom” we will publishthe golden rules of moms whose opinions and advice we especially trust. Her heroines will be not only the well-known star mothers, but also those mothers whose fate and ability to overcome difficult life situations, we really admire. The first WDAY mother in our category was Tutta Larsen. The mother of three children, a television and radio host, author, ideologist and subjective television host TUTTA.TV, specifically for Woman’s Day, wrote her 20 rules for her mother.
Tutta Larsen with children: Martha, Luka and IvanPhoto: Antonina Kiernos1. The child does not owe us anything, he did not ask us to give birth. This is what we wanted. A child is a man. It may have its own characteristics, its own character, its own mood and its own desires, which may not coincide with yours.3. Respect is one of the basic values in education and in communication with a person, even if this person is small.4. No benefits of civilization, good grades and achievements can be more important than trust between parents and children. Trust is the main value.5. If you have problems with a child, these are your problems. If you experience aggression, anger, irritation and resentment towards a child, learn to cope with it, because these are only your emotions.7. Never ask your children to do something that you have not done well yourself. If you do not want a child to smoke, do not smoke. If you do not want him to play on the tablet, set aside your gadgets and take care of the child. Children learn by example. Smaller words, more business. The child understands actions much better than notation. If you want to teach children something, show me how to do it.9. When you forbid a child something, then give an alternative: when closing one door in front of him, be sure to open another. Radical prohibitions - this is the enemy that deprives you of the child’s trust.
Photo: Alexey Molchanovsky 11.Never hit a child 12. Be honest, children are very sensitive to lies. Once you lie, it won't be easy to regain full trust. 13. Most often, in a child you are annoyed by what you yourself are imperfect in. Children are our mirror. 14. Be attentive and empathetic. Often what appears to be a whim is actually something very important to the child. 15. Children have different values and a different view of the world. It seems to you that he has just a piece of glass in his pocket, but for him it is the whole universe. Treat your child's values and fantasies with care. 16. Try to be a child not only a teacher, mentor and mentor, but also a friend. All good things happen in friendships. 17. Do not forget that the child learns in the game. Play is often the main driver of progress in relationships with children. Play a ball with your child for half an hour, and you will understand much more about him! 18. Cherish every minute you spend with your child; childhood ends very quickly. Even some problems are something that you will later remember with longing, if you did not have time to fully surrender to this moment. Don't rush your children to grow up! 20. Children play a huge role in our personal growth and development. They are great teachers who teach and educate us the same way we educate them. Who would you like to see in the WDAY Mom heading? Whose rules would you find useful and interesting? Share your ideas in the comments!
