In the new section “WDAY Mom” we will publishgolden rules of mothers, whose opinion and advice we especially trust. Its heroines will be not only well-known celebrity mothers, but also those mothers whose fate and ability to overcome difficult life situations we truly admire. The first WDAY mother in our column was Tutta Larsen. The mother of three children, TV and radio host, author, ideologist and host of subjective television TUTTA.TV wrote her 20 rules of mother especially for Woman's Day.
Tutta Larsen with children: Martha, Luka and IvanPhoto: Antonina Kiernos1. The child does not owe us anything, he did not ask us to give birth. This is what we wanted. A child is a man. It may have its own characteristics, its own character, its own mood and its own desires, which may not coincide with yours.3. Respect is one of the basic values in education and in communication with a person, even if this person is small.4. No benefits of civilization, good grades and achievements can be more important than trust between parents and children. Trust is the main value.5. If you have problems with a child, these are your problems. If you experience aggression, anger, irritation and resentment towards a child, learn to cope with it, because these are only your emotions.7. Never ask your children to do something that you have not done well yourself. If you do not want a child to smoke, do not smoke. If you do not want him to play on the tablet, set aside your gadgets and take care of the child. Children learn by example. Smaller words, more business. The child understands actions much better than notation. If you want to teach children something, show me how to do it.9. When you forbid a child something, then give an alternative: when closing one door in front of him, be sure to open another. Radical prohibitions - this is the enemy that deprives you of the child’s trust.
Photo: Alexey Molchanovsky 11.Never hit a child. 12. Be honest, children are very sensitive to lies. Once you lie, it will be difficult to regain complete trust. 13. Most often, the things that irritate you in a child are the things in which you yourself are imperfect. Children are our mirror. 14. Be attentive and sensitive. Often, what seems like a whim is actually something very important to a child. 15. Children have different values and a different view of the world. It seems to you that he has just a piece of glass in his pocket, but for him it is an entire universe. Treat your child's values and fantasies with care. 16. Try to be not only a teacher, mentor and tutor for your child, but also a friend. All the best things happen in friendly relationships. 17. Do not forget that a child learns through play. Often, play is the main engine of progress in relationships with children. Play ball with your child for half an hour, and you will understand much more about him! 18. Cherish every minute spent with your child; childhood ends very quickly. Even some problems are something you will remember with longing later if you did not have time to fully surrender to this moment. 19. Do not rush children to grow up! 20. Children play a huge role in our personal growth and development. They are wonderful teachers who teach and educate us in the same way we educate them. Who would you like to see in the "WDAY Mom" column? Whose rules would be useful and interesting to you? Share your ideas in the comments!
