Child difficulties
Photo: Thinkstock / Fotobank1. If a child has only computer games on his mind and performance has declined. To prevent this behavior from developing into a deep gaming addiction, try to figure out why it has arisen. It is important to disclose what and who provokes this addiction. Do not expect that it will pass by itself, but contact a psychologist.2. If the child does not want to make his bed, clean the room, keep his things in order. To avoid such problems, even in the early preschool years, it is necessary to establish certain rules that relate to the child's household duties. To form the standard of purity, you need a personal example of parents. If you are tired of daily forcing his son to make the bed, stop doing it. Just invite a person whose opinion your child really values. Once in an unsightly position, a teenager will surely understand why order in the room is needed. If a teenager is in love with an unworthy person, in your opinion. Your conviction will not be able to cool the love, but only strengthen the feeling. Most likely, a teenager, just stop telling you about yourself and what is happening in his life. It rarely happens that adolescent falling in love is long and final. This probably sounds shocking to strict parents, but in this case, the adolescent must be given freedom of choice. If a child threatens to leave home. It is necessary to find out the reason that makes a teenager say so. Most likely, this is a simple manipulation, the child is accustomed to acting on parents in a certain way (“If you don’t buy me this, then I’ll leave!”). But it may be so: threatening to leave home, the child wants to distract adults from intra-family conflicts and switch attention from one problem to another. If the child does not fulfill the instructions of the parents. If the conversation about how important the help to the parents does not work, then it is necessary to impose sanctions, such as restrictions on entertainment. Keep in mind that the rules established in the family over the years should be reviewed and changed. If at an early age only simple household tasks were available to the child, then with age it is necessary to expand the scope of activities. But, of course, so that this work was a teenager. If a child's mood changes frequently during the day. Every person has the right to sadness, joy, anger, fear. But in order to constructively experience an emotion, you need to learn to recognize it, to understand why it arose. If the child is ready to discuss his sorrows or joys with you, help him to understand the squall of sentiments without criticism.7. If a child does not get along with his stepfather. For a child, a stepfather may appear to be the very figure by which mom and dad dispersed. Talk to your teenager in an accessible language, explain why you broke up, tell us how life will be built in a new family. Be prepared for the fact that mutual understanding will not come immediately. It takes time for the child to adapt and adopt an unusual relationship structure. If the child does not find contact with peers. First of all, it is necessary to find out how important this is for the teenager and whether there is any need to communicate with peers. If the whole thing is excessive shyness, then you need to contact a psychologist. If a teenager has no need for communication and no regrets about his isolation, then there is no reason to worry. Perhaps this is dictated by the personal characteristics of the child. If the teen is involved in a bad company. Talk with your child heart to heart. Find out what gives him an emotional affiliation to a particular company: a sense of relevance, value, freedom of expression or something else. Explain to the teenager that all this can be achieved in other socially acceptable ways, for example, by signing up for an acting class, a sports section, a volunteer corps, etc. 10. If the child does not want to follow the parental advice. For adolescence, resistance is characteristic: everything is done in opposition to what is formed by the family. Unconscious goal - to convey to parents their desire for freedom. It is very important to revise the rules. Those that were suitable for a younger child are no longer applicable to a teenager. If parents feel that they can not cope with the situation, then you need to contact a qualified specialist - a psychologist.
