- How old are you, you say? nineteen? Yes, it's a bit early, - people, who for some reason are terribly interested in how many years I have given birth, shake their heads condemningly. Yes, probably early. Or maybe not? I agree, any mom, before cramps in her stomach, is afraid that she will bring her blood in the hem. Then I was lucky with my mother - having declared myself on the threshold exactly in the “hemline” condition, I received full and unconditional support. “No abortions,” my mother categorically said. Having survived, I must say, the death of a child — my older sister died when she was only 7 months old. Congenital heart defect.
Photo: GettyImagesNo no. Got married. She studied at the university (in person), worked, carried a child. Then in between the pairs I ran to feed my daughter. Washed diapers - forty rags per day. With diapers then was not very good, seventeen years ago. And there was no money. She graduated from the university with a red diploma. I went to work already seriously. Has divorced. Elaborated to complete self-sufficiency. Raised daughter. Sasha is now 17. Sometimes we are mistaken for sisters. And now, when there is time to breathe out and think, I want to share my experience - about why it’s too early to give birth. Rather, on the contrary, it is better than late. Firstly, there are dozens of reasons to postpone the appearance of a child in your life. Nowhere to live, the salary is small, a career must be built, I will have time. Once, in general. Then, however, it suddenly turns out that you are under forty and the baby never appeared in your busy schedule. I am 36 now, I can build a career, hang out at work (and not only), I can even do stupid things - now there is enough time for everything, the desire also remains. Not bad. And no one will present, they say, "watch is ticking." Secondly, when you are younger, you simply have more strength. Physically. For some reason it seems to me that now the pregnancy would not be so easy for me. Thirdly, you are focused on yourself. The look is directed inside. Neither work nor career - nothing distracted me from what was happening inside. I was busy with the most important. Fourth, the fact that I, after giving birth to a child, was busy studying, working and other things from a series of external sales, helped me raise an incredibly independent child. Sasha is quite able to make any documents, go to the clinic, to get tested or to undergo a medical examination, to get to another city, to make a shopping list in a supermarket correctly. Here are just not able to get up in the morning itself. But this is our special ritual. Fifth, the difference between generations does not affect us. There are no conversations in the spirit of “here I am in your years,” neither morals, nor cues such as “this is not music, this is meaningless boom-boom-boom”. We have similar musical tastes, we fall for the same shoes, we ride bikes together and master the videos. And I feel younger. Although, maybe this is a minus - in my 36 years I can’t get rid of the feeling that I am still a teenager. Sixth, we are not just a mother and a daughter, we are friends. We can trust each other. In any case, I trust my daughter completely and completely. And even if she kills and eats someone, I will be on her side, because I will be sure that she had no other choice. I will never impose my opinion and will always ask what Sasha thinks about this or that matter. The decision, however, will still be mine. Like the responsibility for it.
Photo: GettyImagesSeventh. For this, probably, someone will judge me, but ... You see, I can not afford to grow up. True, I am still afraid of very adult aunts who go to the parents' meeting, they know everything about the Montessori system and who in the city teaches French better. They seem so harsh, and here I am thoughtless ... No, I perfectly know how to make a living, plan expenses, stuff my daughter on preparatory courses and in sports sections. Responsibility, again, about which I have already spoken. But all this would not prevent us from sleeping side by side all the weekend, fighting with pillows, riding a roller coaster and breaking our knees, learning skate. And you know what? It's beautiful. And how old have you had your first child?
- Up to 20 years
- 20 - 25 years old
- 25 - 30 years old
- 30 - 35 years old
- 36 and more
- I am childfree
Voted: 3065A when did you get your first child?
- Till 20 years old 16,1%
- 20 - 25 years41.3%
- 25 - 30 years 18.3%
- 30 - 35 years7.1%
- 36 and over 2.8%
- I am childfree14.5%
Voted: 3065
