Councils for the education of children of different ages

Preschool

Well, with toddlers and preschoolers everything is simple.Almost every modern family welcomes early development, teaching letters and counting. But after a few years, all this knowledge will be “duplicated” in kindergarten and school. Early childhood is the period when children mechanically memorize and reproduce words and actions. Therefore, teaching reading and counting at this age is just “drilling”. But it’s high time to develop fine motor skills, coordination and rhythm! What can we teach a baby? To sculpt from plasticine, build castles from matches, assemble puzzles and the like. And also to swim, dance, sing. Childhood is a wonderful time! Let’s enjoy this time together with our little ones.Photo: Gettyimages.It's still time to teach the child to be independent: to dress, tie the laces. And help us a little: wipe the dust, wash the dishes or sew a button, clean the vegetables. Very useful skills! "When my children were small, I, like many mothers, always had to choose: play? To read? Or to cook something delicious? And we came up with the idea of playing "cooks". Kids with pleasure stirred the dough, cut out cookies with molds, molded dumplings with me, and at the same time learned to count. And with the appetite of problems has never been - their "creations" were eaten with a bang! "- says Margarita.

Primary School

What is the situation with children aged 8-10?Do we continue to focus on the knowledge we received at school? Do we check homework? Do we limit access to the Internet? Or do we pass on to the younger generation something that is not related to the school curriculum, but is important, in our opinion? “What can I do, if we put aside my professional skills? I can crochet a little, because my grandmother showed me how to do it. I can cook pilaf, because I learned it from a friend. I can sew a pillowcase or turn trousers into shorts, because we always had a sewing machine at home and my mother did not scold me when I turned my room into a “studio”. These are not the skills that are essential in my life today. These are “anchors” of the memory of my loved ones. After all, all that remains, in the end, is the memory of those people who are dear to us,” says Irina, a mother of two children.Photo: Gettyimages.com What you are doing now is very important for the child and his "model of the world". Warm memories will last a lifetime, even if the classes do not grow into a hobby or profession. And it's time to teach the child the basics of safety. There is a mass of literature on "what to do if." For example, if the child was left alone at home, and the doorbell ringing? If he was lost at the mall? If you passed the station on the subway? If lagged behind classmates on excursions? Discuss, simulate with the child similar situations, work out "instructions on survival."

high school

Teenagers are not yet adults, but they are no longer children!This is the most interesting and fruitful period for mutual cooperation! If you have hobbies - photography, sports, fishing, cooking - it's time to share your passion with your son or daughter. You can interest a teenager, teach the basics and "secrets" of your hobby! Who else? Psychologists note that in families with common hobbies, age-related crisis periods pass more smoothly. Spending more time together is a great idea. Especially since in high school, the academic load allows you to attend sections several times a week. And one more thing. During this period, the world still seems very big. Help your grown children set beacons-priorities. What is important and what is secondary? Remember the parable of the jug that can be filled to the brim with water, but then there will be no room for large stones. How to choose friends, how to build relationships with classmates, how to communicate with the opposite sex, how to react to rudeness and provocations - tell them tactfully and delicately. If asked, give advice. If you don't know what to do, be honest about it. Try to find the answer together.Photo: Gettyimages.com That's what moms say to teenagers: "To pass at least a grain of my life experience to my child - for me it's like" bedding straws. " To think about it I made an unpleasant incident. The son succumbed to the ruse of fraudsters and as a result remained without a new phone. " "If I do not know the answer, I honestly say: go google!" And then we discuss together what the son "dug up" on the Internet - the advice is sometimes contradictory. " "Year 11 my daughter cooks dinner a couple of times a week. We started with the most simple dishes. I know that now, when she is 14, she will not call me every evening to find out how to fry an omelette, if for a week it remains alone. "

High school students

It's time to choose your path in life."Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life" - how close are these words to you? Tell your children about it. What do our children know about us? What is your profession? Do they know why you chose your business? How long did it take you to find yourself, what areas did you try your hand at? How accomplished are you professionally? "My son was very nervous before the exams. The results determined whether he would be accepted into the math class. And then I told him how I dreamed of going to medical school, because almost all my friends were preparing to go there too. But three months before the final exams, I changed my mind and started preparing for the creative competition for the journalism department. And then I was shaking so much before the first session that I even wanted to go pick up my documents, - Sofia shares. - With this I wanted to show my son that I was also terribly panicked about the exams. And if today you think that your calling is mathematics, then tomorrow you may find something completely different for yourself. And that's okay."Photo: Gettyimages.It's great if you can now transfer some of the knowledge to your child. For example, help to master a foreign language, understand math or learn how to design in 3D graphics. If you think that you are not a "role model" in this matter, a teenager, nevertheless, you need to know about it. But do not shift your ambitions to the shoulders of your son or daughter. Help advice, but give them the opportunity to choose their own way.

Students

Earlier, 20-30 years ago, for example, in familiesour parents, it was customary to discuss all the news that happened during the day. Mothers knew the names of their classmates, colleagues, who their son or daughter was dating, where they were going. Now this is rare. Generations are more disunited. Young people communicate on social networks, on thematic forums. The older generation, alas, remains "behind the scenes".Photo: Gettyimages.com“I have certain knowledge that I acquired on my own, because life required it: how to put together a basic wardrobe, how to manage a family budget, how to take care of a baby, after all! And yes, it would have been much easier for me if my mother and grandmothers had told me about something. For example, how not to ruin your first marriage! After all, every woman by the age of 40 accumulates personal “negative experience,” Natalia shares her thoughts. Not long ago, there was a tag on social networks “to my 20-year-old self.” After 30, almost everyone will have something to say, something to warn against. “Don’t do this or that, you’ll turn into a goat.” We learn from our mistakes. But to talk about life with your adult children, you don’t have to be a blogger! To share your experience, you need a trusting relationship. They don’t appear “suddenly,” like a request to “add as a friend.” But while you live together through all the periods of growing up – both you and your children – mutual trust between you grows stronger. And this is the main lesson.