Once there was a happy couple. Matured before the birth of children, gave birth to a baby. Less than a year after a wonderful event - divorced. Such is the statistics - very often couples fall apart in the first year after the birth of a child. Fathers go, unable to withstand the life of a baby sobbing at night and worn out by his wife. Scientists from the University of Pennsylvania took up this problem. We decided to bring the scientific basis for statistics of divorces.how to teach a child to sleep on their ownPhoto: GettyImagesResearchers conducted a survey:167 mothers and 155 fathers told how they felt getting up to their child when he was one month, three, six months, nine months and one year old. And at the same time they were asked to clarify to what extent their partner shared these feelings. In particular, the scientists were interested in the extent to which parents agreed with such a thesis as “My child will feel abandoned if I do not get up to him at night.” It turned out, quite expectedly, that mothers have clearer ideas about how to react to night crying. If the spouse did not share these ideas, mothers felt lonely - as if they were left alone to fight for peace at night. The mother does not feel supported, hence the alienation in the relationship and, as a result, divorce. According to the scientists, parents simply forget to discuss such things. “You need to agree in advance how you will react to your child’s crying at night,” says one of the scientists. — Parents need to be on the same page when the time comes.” “Parents’ health and well-being are as important as their children’s comfort,” says Professor Douglas Tati, head of the study. — Whether you get enough sleep at night or not is not the main thing. The main thing is how you feel about it. If your way of caring for your child stresses you out, then you need to change something. Sooner or later, all children will learn to sleep on their own and without screaming. But you still have to live to see that time.” By the way, in the West there is a practice of “sleep training.” When a child reaches a certain age, they stop approaching him at night, even if he cries. According to experts, this way children get used to sleeping alone, sleep longer and better. Most often, such “training” begins when the child is three months old.

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