Once there was a happy couple. Matured before the birth of children, gave birth to a baby. Less than a year after a wonderful event - divorced. Such is the statistics - very often couples fall apart in the first year after the birth of a child. Fathers go, unable to withstand the life of a baby sobbing at night and worn out by his wife. Scientists from the University of Pennsylvania took up this problem. We decided to bring the scientific basis for statistics of divorces.how to teach a child to sleep on their ownPhoto: GettyImages167 mothers and 155 fathers told how they felt, getting up to the child when he was a month, three, six months, nine months and a year. And at the same time they asked to clarify how their partner shares these feelings. In particular, scientists were interested in how parents agree with such thesis as “My child will feel that he is abandoned if I do not get up to him at night.” Quite expectedly, it turned out that mothers have clearer ideas about how it is necessary to react to night crying. If the spouse did not share these ideas, mothers felt lonely - as if they were left alone to fight for the peace of the night. Mom does not feel support, hence the alienation in the relationship and, as a result, divorce. According to scientists, parents simply forget to say such moments. “You need to agree in advance how you will react to crying at night,” says one of the scientists. “Parents need to be on the same page when X-hour comes.” “The health and well-being of the parents is as important as the comfort of the children,” says Professor Douglas Tati, head of the study. - Whether you get enough sleep at night or not is not the main thing. The main thing is how you feel about it. If your way of caring for your baby is stressing you, then something needs to be changed. All children will sooner or later learn to sleep on their own and without screaming. But we still have to live until that time. ”By the way, in the West there is a practice of“ sleep training ”. When a child reaches a certain age, they stop approaching him at night, even if he is crying. According to experts, this is how children get used to sleeping alone, sleep longer and better. Most often, such "training" begins when the child is three months old.

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