The real story: what it really is to be a single mom

Photo:Getty ImagesOver the past three months, the heroine of this true story has only been able to go somewhere alone once, thanks to her parents, and it was her first non-work-related trip in three years. Her grandparents wanted to spend time with their granddaughter, and she needed to finish some chores and get some rest.In addition, during this entire time, she has only visited a hairdresser once to get a haircut. And once to dye her hair, although she combined the procedure with a business meeting while her hair was drying. There was another massage session, but when her daughter grew up, and her mother felt that years of carrying a child in her arms had not had the best effect on her back. As for nail care, here too, circumstances are not on our heroine's side. She never has time to go to a salon to get a manicure or pedicure. If her mother does not like her new hair color, then she has to go with what she has, because there is no time to correct the hairdresser's work either. Yes, she has already forgotten the last time she plucked her eyebrows, and she has no energy to dress up. But, you must admit, is this the most important thing in the world? Her loved ones are alive and well, and most importantly - they are happy with their mother and daughter, so the heroine herself is happy. In order to keep up with other mothers, she also posts photos of her ideal family life on social networks. But unlike many, she knows their true value! A couple of months ago, she heard from her friend that in the eyes of others, her life with her daughter seems amazing. And another acquaintance admitted that she dreams of working with orphans and raising a child alone. "Really?" she thought. Such a life is not glamorous at all. Living without the support of a husband is incredibly difficult and often lonely. Until the child starts talking, you will spend most of your time talking to yourself, although as the child grows, the reality will become a little easier. For those who idealize single mothers, the heroine of our article wants to give advice that, unfortunately, no one gave her at 20: learn to love yourself and pay attention to your education and your interests, everything else will come in due time. It's a pity that no one told her this at 20, although she does not regret for a second that she gave birth to her Shayra. Now it is difficult for her to believe that the young mother is only 23, although many would give her 33 years. Perhaps, the point is that, having become a parent, a person quickly matures. After all, every day you need to be as organized as possible, take responsibility for your little life and think about your future together. As sad as it may sound, but children's games and communication with peers are over. Your needs are now in last place.Photo:Getty ImagesAll single mothers have days when they are literally exhausted. And our heroine had a whole month when she was really ready to pay her grandparents $100 an hour to get some sleep. In this case, they would remind her that life is tough and she should sleep when her child sleeps, since she decided to raise him alone! Nevertheless, the heroine claims that being a single mother is a wonderful adventure. Even in the most difficult moments. What she misses most is spending time with her friends. However, even a day spent exclusively with her daughter fills her with joy. In her life, there are many tears, a lot of hard work, many sleepless nights, a little loneliness and a lot of happiness!