Five-year-old Misha drawing is not in honor. No, once he was pleased with the colors, felt-tip pens. Exactly until the moment when his father, a graduate of the art school, did not decide: it's time from "Kalyak Malyak" to move on to more productive genres. At that moment, Mishin started a personal artistic hell .- No, well, who draws like that! What do you have for the wheels are oval. Come on, we need to make a smooth circle. Yes, even, I said! And why do you have a Christmas tree purple? It must be green. No not like this. Let me show you how.
A photo: GettyImagesSo father dutifully shaded needles, Misha gently suffered, acutely experiencing his "incompetence". He felt that his father was unhappy with him, and thought that he would never be so beautiful in himself. Since then, he has been trying to take paint as rarely as possible, because "he can not draw and he will not get anything anyway". Our expert, art therapist, director of the Tavrikland children's center Elena Morozova:
Learning to draw a child is not necessary at least years before8-10. But it is necessary to provide such an opportunity. And the more extensive and diverse will be the materials, textures, methods of drawing, the better! To the very crumb you, of course, show how to use paints, brushes, water, crayons. But in no case should you admonish: "That's how you need to draw a tree, but like a cloud, and an orange carrot ..." And, of course, do not snatch a pencil from your hand to fix a sloppy petal. Such training loads the child with templates, stereotypes. It turns out that having received praise from my mother for the "right" sun, he will draw it all his life! If you just provide materials and enjoy its success, then it will form the desire for experiments. He will make discoveries, rather than stamping drawings acceptable to adults. Mom of two-year-old Tasi has another experience. Her crumb is literally in love with markers, crayons and other items that leave their mark on paper ... Well, not only on paper. Walls, table, doors, floor. Even the sofa keeps the traces of the Tasin Arts. And the mother of the girl does not know how to react to such self-expression. "I understand that if I scold her for this, I will frighten off the craving for creativity," says the woman. "But I can not let her spoil things either."Scold for the spoiled things are not worth it. But you do not need to let this happen either. It can be noted how wonderful and beautiful it turned out, but to invite to paint still in the album, on the paper, even on old wallpaper - maybe it's worth temporarily attaching them to the wall. It is also very useful to arrange exhibitions of children's works, hanging them in the house. Giving the place of honor to the child's work, you confirm its significance, the child feels that here, in this house, there is a place for his own creations!
A photo: GettyImagesMy personal experience until recently, too, was not ideal. My son flatly refused to do anything with me or with my father. Draw - no, sculpt - no, cut - no way. At the same time in the kindergarten, teachers regularly showed me his crafts. That is, with foreign people, he did everything with pleasure, but with me did not want to any. If it was honest, it was insulting. With this insult I went to him. Went out, angry. If he succumbed to persuasion, the mood was still spoiled. And none of this did not work. In the end, I decided to just leave him behind. And nerves to calm coloring for adults. He played, I painted. Idyll. A couple of days later he sat down to see what I was doing. Then he asked me to give him pencils ... The process has started! As it turned out, unconsciously, I did everything right.На самом деле очень распространенная ситуация.Well, the child doesn't want to create side by side with the parent! It's useless to force, you can certainly persuade and explain the benefits of such activities, but it's pretty pointless. Believe me, the love of creativity is inherent in each of us. But it can only be revealed unobtrusively, only by personal example. Just pick up paints, paper or coloring books and go! If your child feels that you are doing something interesting, he will definitely become interested in it too, will feel your inspiration. But only on condition that it is sincere.
