Usually we see stars in full parade: make-up, attire, hairstyle, clean neat children and exemplary order in the house. But how they manage to do all this, usually remains behind the scenes. Until they themselves decide not to open it. The singer GluckoZo, the mother of two remarkable daughters, shared her secrets about how she brings up children and combines motherhood with a career: "I often ask myself: do I do everything right in raising children? I can say that every year my attitude changes, "Natasha said.
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Do no harm
The singer admitted that in her parenting shefollows the first commandment of a doctor: do no harm. “I am very afraid of instilling complexes in children and, God forbid, sowing resentment,” Natasha confesses. “I know from my own experience how children were raised in the 90s. Roughly speaking, no way! Fortunately, I am one of those who will never betray a dream and will follow it to the end. But, unfortunately, many broke down before my eyes, and upbringing, believe me, played a major role there!” Gluk’oZa raises her children in a completely different way than she was once raised. According to the star mom, it is important to see an individual in your child, to learn to distinguish between the whims and ambitions of a growing person. “It is very important not to break the desire to do something and not to deprive them of self-confidence. This applies to my eldest daughter Lidiya, who is now 10 years old. But the youngest, Vera, is already showing ambitions, surprising with her different point of view, says Natalia. - Her whole character is in the name Vera. She is wise beyond her years, she teaches me something new every day, and these are the most valuable lessons for me."
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Start with yourself
Moreover, Gluk’oZa admits that it is more likelychildren educate her. “I understand that I am the most correct, bright and significant example in life for them, so I constantly educate myself,” she explains. One of the most important discoveries that Natasha made for herself as a parent is the futility of lecturing. Scolding a child is a waste of time. “The only thing children need is communication, constant conversations, explanations,” Gluk’oZa is sure. And either jokingly or seriously, she adds that this period when continuous communication is needed does not last long, until the age of fifteen. “Then it is difficult to explain something, prove, ‘hammer’ it in, as many try,” the singer believes. Although, of course, it is not always possible to follow the rule “always pay attention to the child if he needs it.” “As a mother who works and tours all the time, I am constantly haunted by the feeling that Lida and Vera do not get enough of my attention,” Natasha confessed.
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When everyone is happy
How to spend time with children correctly?Natasha has a simple answer: the way the children want it. It’s great to be naughty at any age. After all, it’s a surefire way to never become a gray, angry, lecturing, irritable, and grumpy person. It’s also important to convey to children that they are the closest and dearest people to each other: “I know that sometimes people by blood can be as far away from you as possible. But friends by interests and views are sometimes closer! I teach my girls how to love each other with their shortcomings and peculiarities, I tell them how important it is to know that family is your rear in any situation.” Sometimes parents themselves plant the seeds of hostility between their children. Natasha has one secret on how to avoid this: you should never compare them. Even in small things: look, she’s already eaten, and you’re still picking at it. “Never give them an example of a brother or sister! It is better to use characters from fairy tales and cartoons, they want to be like them and look up to them more,” she advises. And when children still quarrel and come to complain to their mother about their unbearable sister or brother? “Don’t tell him that it is his own fault. Tell him that you sympathize with him in this situation: “yes, your sister is often very wrong, and sometimes it is also difficult for me to explain to her,” Natasha recommends an individual approach. The singer is sure that if you follow all these rules, hugs between relatives will be the strongest. And whether she is right or not, time will tell.
