To all these questions, which concern many mothers,is answered by the practicing psychologist, candidate of psychological sciences, deputy head of the department of social and ethnic psychology of the Moscow State University, specialist of the Alter mental health center Elena Vladimirovna Zhatko.
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How wonderful to see mother with baby onHands, which she gently and affectionately presses to her chest! What happiness it is to enjoy communication with the baby: to see how it grows, learns the world around, takes the first steps. But in modern life, the world of business and career requires a young woman full of dedication. And now the nurse is standing on the threshold - a strange, unfamiliar woman, ready to take her baby from the hands of the mother. Who is this woman: Freken Bock, Mary Poppins or Arina Rodionovna? How will she react to the baby? In the ideal representation of many mothers, the nurse should be moderately strict, principled, without bad habits, with a balanced temper, patient, silent, executive, accurate, preferably with a pedagogical background and experience working with Thus, a person found suitable for all parameters was found. Going to work, a young mother misses her baby all day, suffers from anguish, piles up her nurse with answering questions. Finally the work day is over. She rushes into the apartment with dreams, fears and hopes and ... Her baby, happy and cheerful, plays with a woman, hardly known to him, who caresses him, hugs and kisses him! My mother saw a shock: in her mind the nanny passed her professional boundaries, because Mary Poppins did not kiss her pupils and was strict with them. And suddenly this woman will infect something with her child? In the mind of her mother, a picture of the catastrophe is already being created, when this woman tries to replace herself with her - a legitimate mother. So, many mother-workaholics are jealous of a nanny. Consider this situation from different angles. Read also:
