To all these questions, which concern many mothers,is answered by the practicing psychologist, candidate of psychological sciences, deputy head of the department of social and ethnic psychology of the Moscow State University, specialist of the Alter mental health center Elena Vladimirovna Zhatko.
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How wonderful to see a mother with a baby onarms, which she gently and affectionately presses to her chest! What a joy it is to enjoy communicating with a baby: to see how he grows, learns about the world around him, takes his first steps. But in modern life, the world of business and career requires complete dedication from a young woman. And now a nanny is standing on the threshold - a stranger, an unfamiliar woman, ready to take her baby from the hands of her mother. Who is this woman: Miss Bock, Mary Poppins or Arina Rodionovna? How will she treat the baby? What will she teach him and what kind of relationship will they have? In the ideal view of many mothers, a nanny should be moderately strict, principled, without bad habits, with a balanced character, patient, silent, executive, neat, preferably with a pedagogical education and experience working with children. So, a person has been found who is suitable in all respects. Leaving for work, a young mother misses her baby all day, suffers from melancholy, bombards the nanny with text messages with questions. Finally, the working day is over. She runs into the apartment with dreams, fears and hopes and... Her baby, happy and cheerful, is having fun with a woman he barely knows, who gently caresses, hugs and kisses him! The mother is shocked by what she sees: in her mind, the nanny has crossed her professional boundaries, because Mary Poppins did not kiss her charges and was strict with them. What if this woman infects her child with something? A picture of a catastrophe is already being created in the mother's mind, when this woman tries to replace her - the legal mother. Thus, many workaholic mothers become jealous of the nanny. Let's consider this situation from different angles. Read also:
