How to teach a child to help around the house

- Give, I, you, only you will smear, - Oksanasnatches from a four-year-old daughter a rag, which she is trying to wipe the spilled soup. - Do not climb by the hand. - Cyril grumbles discontentedly at a five-year-old son, who tries to settle down next to a set of daddy screwdrivers. - You will grow up, I will teach you everything. I give the head to cut-off, it will not teach. And Oksana in a couple of years will begin to grumble that she raised a parasite, which without a scandal does not strike a finger on the finger. Because they both made a big mistake - they strangled the aspiration of their children to be assistants.Photo:GettyImages “I was never forced to do anything,” 35-year-old Inga already recalls. - I'll just get out of bed, she's already made for me. We eat - the dishes are washed, I throw away the clothes - put away in the closet. I had to learn to cook when I was married. For Inga, it is torture to put things in order. Therefore, she teaches children to do housework from early childhood. And in the eyes of grandmothers she looks like a malicious mother when she forbids them to “serve” their grandchildren. Psychologists and teachers assure that children can be taught to help as early as two years old, gradually adding responsibilities to them. Here is just a small list of what you can trust them at different ages. 2-3 years - Putting away toys - When Mom requests, bring or take things away, for example, put dirty clothes in a basket - Put your clothes on the right shelf - Wipe up spilled water or soup - Wipe off dust - Bring small, lightweight bags home or from doorstep to the kitchen - Vacuum (my son just loved to run around the apartment with the humming "monster")Photo:GettyImages 4-5 years - Taking care of your pet - pouring water, adding food - Taking care of the plants - Making your bed - Disassembling the dishwasher, at least partially - cutlery and unbreakable items - Put things in the washing machine - Prepare a simple breakfast: pour cereal with milk or make a sandwich with pre-cut ingredients - Disassemble bags brought from the store - Help dad with minor repairs around the house 6-7 years old - Set the table - Sort clothes after washing - Help mom carry shopping home - Iron (supervised by adults) - Fully fold or disassemble the dishwasher - Cut vegetables, sausages and other simple foods (supervised by adults) 8-9 years old - Handle the stove - Walk the dog - Go to the store for small purchases - Look after your little brother or sister for a short timePhoto: GettyImagesThis is important!"We must begin in no case in an ultimatum, but in a game form." About six years, you can officially assign to the child certain duties that only he performs. For example, cleaning toys, caring for a flower. But it is important to give it right. It's one thing when it's a tedious routine. Other, when "I can rely on this complex task only for you." Do not let me down! "And if he asks for help, you can sometimes help him. Otherwise, he completely logically refuses, if he is asked to help you .- Do not dismiss the child, if he himself offers you help. Yes, for sure after that I'll have to rework everything. But this work is for the future. Be patient. - Do not scold me if something does not work out. I poured a lot of excess water, I did not put dishes there, broke something .- Do not pay for homework, but do not punish her. And, of course, do not encourage the cancellation of some cases. Behavior - behavior, and duties are not canceled. The only exception is when you are arranging a whole day for the "whole day of the saint lazy" with the whole family, that you must do everything after rest. - Set an example. Lazy parents rarely grow hardworking children.