Emotional parenting

A photo: GettyAvoid excessive criticism of the child. Many parents, without being aware of it, gradually destroy their children's self-esteem. They make unnecessary observations to them, pull them back, joke or intervene and correct, when the child does something and he does not succeed at the first attempt. Often parents hang labels on their children: "slovenly", "inept", "vermin". All this has a detrimental effect on the child. Therefore, if you have such behavior, the next time before you say something or do something, remember that your words are addressed to a small vulnerable person. Try to criticize the baby less, use sarcasm in communicating with him. Let your children be independent when they learn something new. Do not interfere and allow them to make mistakes. Refuse critical assessments and labels regarding children. Remember: children tend to believe in parent words. If you tell your child every day that he is harmful, he begins to consider himself just like that. Appealing to the children, you gradually lose their trust, and hence the proximity to them. Imagine what you would feel in place of the child. Very often it seems to adults that children's problems are mere trifles, which you should not pay attention to. For example, someone called the baby, or the child is worried before the first presentation with a report. It seems to you that this is not an excuse for experiencing and you simply ignore the child's problem. And in vain: as a result, the kid remains alone with himself and closes in himself. To prevent this, try to show more sympathy. If you find it difficult to do this, try to imagine a similar situation in the adult world. Remember how usually you have to get nervous before the first day at a new job, or how hurt it is to hear a mockery of yourself from colleagues. Read together children's books. Emotional parenting is not an easy task. Many adults find it difficult to talk about emotions. But the task of parents is to teach children. There is an easy way, which suits absolutely everyone, is reading books. Joint reading with children can be an excellent means of emotional education. Books help children learn new words to talk about feelings, they contain many examples of how different people cope with gusts of anger, sadness, fear. When reading aloud to children, it seems that the whole family takes part in the plot of the book, and so the characters become closer to them. Good books help parents to build emotional contact with their children.

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