“My daughter hates me. I put it in my face and said so. She said she would leave home as soon as possible. And spit on my words, requests. Till now hands shake. I do not know how to live now. And is it worth it? ”There are many such heart-tearing stories in every women's forum. Teenagers throw cruel, ruthless words in the face of mothers, slam the door in the face. What to do? For advice women go to the same as they do. They often receive not advice, but words of support, but it's better than nothing. Psychologists say: it does not always make sense to panic when you hear this from your own child. Perhaps he uttered these terrible words in a fit of anger, and your reaction further exacerbated the situation. Now you need to look for a solution to this problem. “The most important thing is not to hurt him in return. Some parents fall into such rage when they hear that their child hates them, that they strike back even more force, saying that they also hate him and that he did not have to give birth, "experts warn.
Photo:GettyImagesThe best thing to do is to stay calm. You can very politely say that you still love him, or joke to defuse the situation: "Don't worry, I love you enough for both of us." Usually, children behave like this when they are angry that you forbid them something or don't give them something. This is a temporary situation. If you find it difficult to control yourself, it is better to leave for a while and cool down. Experts have compiled a special dictionary of the language of teenagers, . Read - maybe everything is not so terrible. Not always children put such a terrible meaning into their words. Often, it is just a desire to hurt. But the meaning is completely different. "I hate you!" = "I need your love and help! I feel powerless and do not know what to do, so I will say these nasty words to be sure that you will always be there, even when I behave just awfully." "Leave me alone!" = "I don't understand the situation and I'm not ready to deal with it at the moment." "Nobody loves me!" = "One of my friends is acting weird, something is going on that I don't know about." "Shut up!" = "You're embarrassing me." "You never believe me!" = "Sometimes I don't believe myself." "You don't believe me!" = "Right now I'm lying to you in a big way." "I'm bored!" = "This isn't interesting or right for me, so I'm nervous and irritable." "You don't understand me!" = "I feel misunderstood, and you'll never understand the problems lurking deep inside me." "I promise I'll do it!" = "I'm not going to do it unless I get punished for it, and even if I do, it's up to me to decide if it's worth the punishment." "Her mom is letting her go!" = "I want you to give in like the other mother and let me go too." "I can't!" = "I don't want to and I won't." "If you loved me, you would let me do this!" = "Let's see how she reacts to this." This is one of the most powerful phrases that children use to manipulate their parents. The best response would be to insist on your own, but at the same time emphasize several times that you love your child always and unconditionally - no matter how good or bad he or she is!
