For many of us it's easier to speak in front of the stadiumspectators, than to tell one, and the native child about sex. Parents are worried that if they start a conversation on such a delicate topic, they will blurt out too much. Therefore, we were usually recognized in older groups of the kindergarten or at school from more enlightened peers about the fact that we were not found in cabbage. By this moment, sex is becoming something forbidden. After all, it is not parents who speak of it, but other children. And now you are not the main authority for the child, but that kid, which explained clearly how the children are made. In addition, the unknown attracts. The child wants to try everything on himself, to be as advanced as his friends. What this leads to, you yourself guess ... "My baby is so innocent, why would I steal his childhood by talking about sex," some argue. Believe me, a child will surely hear about sex, but it's better from you, and then next time he will come for advice not to a classmate, but to the closest and understanding people-to his parents.
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How to discuss the topic of sex with a child
1. The simpler you speak, the better.Don't make a big deal out of the topic of sex. No: "Attention, baby, sit back, we're about to have a serious conversation." 2. In order not to be afraid to talk to your child about "adult topics," accept the fact that sex is natural. Thanks to it, your child was born, who has the right to know about his birth. 3. Look at the subject from a different angle. Not as something intimate and uncomfortable for children's ears, but something important, as well as other knowledge about life that you want to convey to your child. 4. Educate step by step. Don't dump all the information on your child in one conversation. Make a list of what you want to tell him today and in your next conversations. 5. If your child has questions, and they will definitely have them, answer specifically and to the point, without going into details. As a rule, children under 8 will be satisfied with your answers. And those who are older will want to know the details. Don't avoid answering questions if you don't want your child to look them up on the Internet.6. Often, we ourselves don't really know how our bodies work. So buy children's picture books that tell about sex in a clear and understandable way. Just don't try to get rid of your child with manuals. Discuss what you've seen and read together.
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At what age and what to tell children
0-5 years – Be brief, simple and to the pointliteral. - Name body parts correctly, do not give them nicknames. No "sparrows" or "faucets". - When a child behaves immodestly, switch his attention to something else. - Teach that our bodies are beautiful and created by God. - Teach that love between a man and a woman, the birth of a child is wonderful. 6-10 years - Explain how the body of a man and a woman is structured. - Discuss the physiology of sex. - Tell how children grow in the womb. - Talk about sexual violence. How you can touch another person and how you cannot. - Use the right moment to talk to your child about sex on TV and the Internet. Tell them that in life, sex is love and tenderness between a man and a woman, which is definitely not in films on adult websites. - Discuss all the topics that you didn’t have time to talk about with your child before age 5. From age 8 and up - Tell them how the body changes during puberty. - Tell them how our emotions change during puberty. - Talk about how relationships with the opposite sex arise and last. - Discuss all the topics that you didn’t have time to talk about when you were 6–7 years old.
