Why it is difficult to communicate with a difficult teenager
"He'll outgrow it," parents think.But in reality, during adolescence, a child needs care and support, otherwise he will remain insecure for the rest of his life. Even if it is difficult to communicate with a teenager, you should not be angry with him.To find a common language with a teenager, you need to take into account a number of rules Photo: Getty Changes in behavior at the age of 11-12 years are associated with the following reasons:
- There is a hormonal reconstruction of the body, which leads to serious changes in the psyche. From a psychological point of view, for a teenager, mood swings are the norm.
- There are physical changes. The boy has a hair on his body, the voice is grating, he becomes more manly. The girl's mammary glands are enlarged, and the menses begin. Sometimes children are not ready for such changes, therefore they become isolated in themselves.
- First love arises. Sympathy and love children could experience and earlier, but in their teens they encounter a new feeling. Lack of reciprocity can also have a negative impact on the child.
During this difficult period for children, adults should try to find a common language with them. You should not scold the child, even if it seems that he has become unbearable.
How to properly communicate with your son and daughter aged 11-14
To communicate correctly with a teenager, you need to follow a number of rules:
- Adult relationships should be built. Now he is no longer a child, so excessive lisping and guardianship can provoke a protest on his part.
- You can't compare him with his peers. Every person is an individual, characterized by individual qualities and character traits.
- Do not scream and abuse the child. This is meaningless, as it can provoke even more aggression.
- It is necessary to consult with the child. Children should understand that their opinion is taken into account. Moreover, in many matters they are "more advanced" than their parents.
The child must understand that adults are on hisside, even if he is wrong. Therefore, it is important to find an approach to the teenager. This period will not last long, but if you ruin the relationship now, it will be difficult to restore it later.