- How, are you putting your baby in diapers ?! I already taught you in 9 months! - my mom was indignant. For a long time the topic of diapers was sick in our family. The numerous army of relatives also warmed her. "I should be going to the pot," they would say, when the son turned a year old. "My child does not owe anything to anyone," I snapped once, I was tired of excusing myself, and the theme of the pot vanished.
A photo: Getty Images Now my son is 2.3 years old, and yes, throw me tomatoes, he still walks in pampers. When I put the baby on the pot I started back in 7 months. Everything went well until the son learned to walk. On the pot he was no longer seated - screams, tears, hysterics began. This period dragged on for a long time. Now the son is not afraid of the pot. However, he is more like a toy for him than a toy that he drives around the apartment, sometimes a hat or a basket for storing Lego. His child still prefers to do the diapers even if only a few minutes ago, at the request of his mother, he sat patiently for a long time . On the forums the theme of the pot among the mothers, like a fair of vanity. Every second hastens to boast: "And my something from 6 months to the pot walks!" That is, the child also does not stand on his feet, but before the pot already somehow gets. Probably, the beret also reads a newspaper - this is such a small genius. In general, the more you read the forums, the more you drive yourself into the complex of "bad mother". A well-known children's and family psychologist Larisa Surkova rescued me from self-flagellation.
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The pot is such a controversial topic.If you say that you need to train after a year, you are a fool, if before a year, you are also a fool. I am always for the interests of the child. Recently, my youngest daughter turned one year old, and at the same time we put out the potty. We will play, show examples and wait. The child must mature. You do not empty your bowels in your sleep, do you? Because you have matured. And the baby is not yet. 6 signs that the child is ready to give up diapers:1. He can sit and get up from the potty by himself.2.He sits on it without resistance. 3. He is secluded during the process - behind a curtain, behind a bed, etc. 4. He can stay dry for at least 40-60 minutes. 5. He can indicate the need to go potty with words or actions. 6. He does not like being wet. When to sound the alarm?There is no need to worry if the child is under three years old.constantly wears diapers. I'll let you in on a secret. The child will go to the potty one day. You can wait and get upset, or you can just watch. All children are different and mature in their own time. Yes, many mature later these days, but this is not a disaster. Only 5 percent of children actually have problems with the potty. If a child over three years old has not mastered toilet skills, it is possible that: - you started potty training him too early or too traumatically, through screaming; - he experienced stress associated with the potty. Someone scared him: "if you don't sit down, I'll punish you," etc.; - he developed disgust at the sight of his own excrement; - he was scared when they took tests, for example, for pinworms; - you attach undue importance to potty issues, react violently, scold, persuade, and the child understands that this is a good method to manipulate you; - a very extreme option - the child shows signs of physical and mental developmental delay. How to overcome fear of the potty?1. We accurately determine the cause.If it's you, then you need to devalue the reaction. Stop making noise and swearing. Make an indifferent face or express emotions in a whisper. 2. Talk to him! Analyze the reasons, explain why exactly you don't like his refusal to use the potty. Ask if it will be "okay" if mommy wets her pants? Find out if he likes being dirty and wet. 3. If the child asks for a diaper, show how many are left in the pack: "Look, there are only 5, there are no more. Now we will go to the potty." Say this very calmly, without scolding or shouting. 4. Read "potty" fairy tales. You can download them for free on the Internet. 5. Start a "potty diary" and draw your own story about the potty. The baby sat on it, so you can give him a sticker. Didn't sit? It means the potty is lonely and sad without the child. 6. If you suspect that your child is lagging behind in his or her development, consult a psychologist or neurologist. 7. If you know that your child has had traumatic experiences with his or her psyche, it is also better to consult a psychologist. No such opportunity? Then search the Internet for therapeutic fairy tales on your topic, for example, “A Tale about the Fear of the Potty.” Read on:
