Weather in the house: who or what is responsible for it?

"I believe that it is the woman who is the keeperhearth - can support the fire of love, kindness and affection, "says Elena Shuvarina, a psychology teacher, head of the Development Center for Children and Parents" House of Joy. " Well, is it possible to argue with this? Of course, the editorial staff of Woman's Day fully agrees with Elena Vyacheslavovna. But ... every mother knows: often with the advent of a small man in the family, everything else in life departs on the second, third and even tenth plan. Especially in the first year of the baby's life: immersed in cares for the baby, the young mother oh-oh-very often forgets about her husband and even about herself. And in this, you see, there are a lot of dangers ... So how to restore the balance in the life of a woman and the whole family? "Begin by allowing yourself to rest. You can not undo everything, but the tired mother becomes more irritable and even quick-tempered towards her husband and even a child, "advises Elena Shuvarina. And an experienced teacher suggests: it is very important to teach the baby to the regime: "Firstly, constantly repetitive actions can calm the baby. And secondly, you can plan the day and allocate time for yourself. " Where to get this time? Just look around! Next to you are close people who will take care of the child with the same love as you do! Of course, these are grandmothers, older children, but especially, according to Elena, trust your husbands! Even if for the father is the first experience of raising a child, a loving spouse will always find the words to gently suggest what and how to do. Communication one on one with the child very favorably affects both the daddy and the baby. Well, a young mother herself, in order not to lose herself in cares and save energy for a happy family life, is simply obliged to do what she likes best and what is real at the moment. It can be reading books, singing, fitness, needlework, self-education, finally. "Be interesting to yourself and others," says Elena Shuvarina.

How to help your child become more sociable?

Every mom dreams that her child will grow uphappy is an axiom. Among the components of this happiness is healthy, interesting and exciting communication between the child and peers and other people. Teachers assure: the development of communication skills should be given no less attention than other areas of child development. But who will help the baby develop these qualities? Of course, we ourselves, parents - and above all by personal example. “It is the atmosphere in the family that influences the ability to get along with people and sociability. Therefore, you and your model of behavior are an example for the child, ”explains Elena Shuvarina. What can we do to achieve this? First, to organize an environment for the baby where he could communicate, get to know children, share toys with them. This will happen in your home, if you invite other parents with children to visit, or just during a walk in the yard - it doesn't matter. It is more important that you yourself show how you interact with children: how should you communicate? “Show your child how to react in certain situations, especially conflict situations. After all, your child does not have such a life experience, and he learns, takes an example from you, accumulates all the ways of interacting with people ", - this is advice from Elena Shuvarina, and we think that every mother should remember it firmly. "Do as I do!" - this form of "learning" everything will be understandable to your baby. Role-playing is another great way to develop communication skills. Elena Shuvarina advises to play up all the situations that your baby may encounter in everyday life, and you will see how your child will gladly accept the role of a seller and buyer, teacher and driver, mom and dad. It is very, very important to spend as much time as possible with your children, and most importantly, to love and accept them as they are. After all, the love of loved ones increases the child's self-esteem, which, in turn, contributes to openness in communication. There is even more good advice from Elena Shuvarina on the website of the Development Center for Children and Parents.

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