The house of joy in Penza

Weather in the house: who or what is responsible for it?

“I believe that it is the woman who is the keeperhearth – can support the fire of love, kindness and affection,” says Elena Shuvarina, educational psychologist, head of the Development Center for Children and Parents “House of Joy.” Well, is it possible to argue with this? Of course, the editorial board of Woman`s Day completely agrees with Elena Vyacheslavovna. But… every mother knows: often with the appearance of a little person in the family, everything else in life fades into the background. Especially in the first year of the baby’s life: immersed in caring for the baby, the young mother very-very often forgets about her husband and even about herself. And in this, you must agree, there are many dangers… So how to restore balance in the life of a woman and the whole family? “Start by allowing yourself to rest. You can’t do everything, and a tired mother becomes more irritable and even hot-tempered towards her husband and even the child,” advises Elena Shuvarina. And an experienced teacher also suggests: it is very important to accustom the baby to a routine: “Firstly, constantly repeating actions can calm the baby. And secondly, you can plan the day and set aside time for yourself.” Where can you get this time? Just look around! There are close people next to you who will take care of the child with the same love as you do! Of course, these are grandmothers, older children, but especially, as Elena believes, trust your husbands! Even if this is the first experience of raising a child for the dad, a loving wife will always find the words to gently suggest what and how to do. One-on-one communication with the child has a very beneficial effect on both the dad and the baby. Well, the young mother herself, in order not to lose herself in worries and save energy for a happy family life, is simply obliged to do what she likes most and what is real at the moment. This can be reading books, singing, fitness, handicrafts, self-education, finally. “Be interesting to yourself and others,” advises Elena Shuvarina.

How to help your child become more sociable?

Every mother dreams of her child growing uphappy is an axiom. The components of this happiness include healthy, interesting and exciting communication of the child with peers and other people. Teachers assure: the development of communication skills should be given no less attention than other areas of the child's development. But who will help the baby develop these qualities? Of course, we ourselves, parents - and above all, by personal example. "The ability to get along with people and sociability is influenced by the atmosphere in the family. Therefore, you and your model of behavior are an example for the child," explains Elena Shuvarina. What can we do for this? Firstly, organize an environment for the baby where he could communicate, get to know children, share toys with them. Will this happen at your home, if you invite other parents with children to visit, or just during a walk in the yard - it does not matter. It is more important that you yourself show ways of interacting with children: how to communicate? "Yourself demonstrate to the baby how to react in certain situations, especially conflict ones. After all, your child does not have such life experience, and he learns, follows your example, accumulates all the ways of interacting with people,” is advice from Elena Shuvarina, and we think that every mother should remember it firmly. “Do as I do!” – this form of “teaching” everything will be understandable to your baby. Another great way to develop communication skills is role-playing. Elena Shuvarina advises to act out all the situations that your baby may encounter in everyday life, and you will see how your child will happily accept the role of a seller and a buyer, a teacher and a driver, a mother and a father. It is very, very important to spend as much time as possible with your children, and most importantly – to love and accept them as they are. After all, the love of loved ones increases the child’s self-esteem, which, in turn, contributes to openness in communication. Even more good advice from Elena Shuvarina on the website of the Development Center for Children and Parents .