How to raise your child healthy andhappy, what is a really joyful childhood, what to do to teach a child to be kind, sociable, purposeful, how to praise it properly and whether it is possible to punish, what games to play and what songs to sing - all of this and many other things will be told by simple and clear video lessons from Woman`s Day and the teacher-psychologist Elena Shuvarina.

"I have a perpetual motion machine, an eternal runner, an eternal jumper ..."

Remember, there was such a funny song about little oneschildren? Parents whose children have reached the age of 2-3 years will say: “Yes! This is about mine!” Indeed, two- to three-year-old children are little people with a “motor” who seem ready to run around 24 hours a day, be capricious, demand something important for themselves. This is normal, reassures parents Elena Shuvarina, a teacher-psychologist, head of the Center for Development for Children and Parents “House of Joy”. “Only in movement does a child learn about the world. An energetic, active child is so natural, normal,” says Elena. But, you must admit, sometimes all this activity can be tiring for us, parents… “At this age, a child cannot control his own behavior, his actions are sometimes arbitrary. He is very emotional, and his emotions are very unstable, because he is entering the most difficult period of his life - the famous crisis of three years,” explains Elena Shuvarina. Yes, this is the "terrible beast" that magazines and websites often use to scare moms and dads - the three-year crisis is not a fiction, but an absolutely real phenomenon. Moreover, it can start to appear earlier - from two, or even from one and a half years.

The crisis of three years is normal

At this age, the little person beginsto feel more and more independent and a separate person, with their own desires and preferences. And every day the child shows, literally fights for their independence. And yes, often they do this with the help of whims, tantrums and tears. Just don’t think that trouble has come to the house and your baby’s character is hopelessly spoiled: these manifestations are a completely normal, natural phenomenon for a child of 2-3 years old. “Every child goes through this period of time, and only your understanding, patient attitude, acceptance will help the child survive this difficult period of life,” says Elena Shuvarina. And the experienced educational psychologist also advises talking as much as possible with your two- and three-year-old daughters and sons and, of course, reading them children's poems and fairy tales: the thing is that it is at this age that the child’s speech begins to develop very rapidly. And, of course, read poems and fairy tales to your child.

How to understand that the crisis has come?

However, what signs will help to indicate thatthat the child is in one of the most difficult periods of life – the three-year crisis? The child wants to do everything himself, he strives for independence in everything; he becomes stubborn and obstinate, insists on something of his own, even on something he has long lost interest in; categorically refuses to do everything that he is asked to do, or does everything the other way around – the exact opposite of what he is asked to do. He often quarrels with his parents and others, strives to impose his will on everyone… “All these symptoms indicate that the child’s attitude towards other people and towards himself is changing, and he needs a change in the attitude of his parents towards him. You should not be afraid of the severity of the crisis – they indicate that the child has formed the prerequisites for further development. He is increasingly separating himself from the adult, increasingly demonstrating his independence,” explains Elena Shuvarina.

"Medicine" from the crisis

Yes, dear moms and dads, the time has come for usdifficult times! However, absolutely all children in the world go through the three-year crisis. But is it possible to soften the manifestations of the crisis and how to help your baby get out of it safely? Let's listen to Elena Shuvarina: "First of all, try to see the positive aspects in the manifestation of the crisis. For example, stubbornness is the highest manifestation of the child's will, a quality that is so necessary for him in the future. Capriciousness is a demonstration of one's own importance to others, a sense of one's own "I". And it will be much easier for you to accept the changes occurring in the child." So how should we, parents, behave? Elena Shuvarina advises thinking over a strategy of behavior in relation to the child: what should you put up with, what should you insist on? "Do not attach much importance to stubbornness and whims. Usually the peak of stubbornness occurs at 2.5-3 years. Do not try to instill something in the child when he has an attack of stubbornness - it is useless. There is no point in swearing in this case either. Be persistent and consistent. And if a fit of stubbornness happens in a public place, most likely only one thing will help - take the child by the hand and lead him away." Try to switch the child's attention, "outsmart" him, but most importantly - do not think that your baby will forever remain so willful, stubborn and capricious! The crisis will definitely end, and it depends only on us, adults, how painlessly this difficult period in the life of a growing person will end. So what to do? Let's ask Elena Shuvarina: "Show your love and acceptance towards the child as much as possible. Remember that the success of the three-year crisis depends on your patience and understanding." More good advice from Elena Shuvarina on the website of the Development Center for Children and Parents

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