Why is it necessary to take maternity leave - psychologists

Here, for example, Oksana Samoilova. On May 1, her husband took her from the hospital together with "three kilograms of happiness" - Maya's third daughter. And now the young mummy is happy that she does not need to go to work "I do not go to work. And I do not plan in the near future. The whole pregnancy was held there, now you can rest and a little, "Oksana wrote on her page in Instagram. Plans for the wife of rapper Djigan for the near future are very simple:" I realized that giving birth at the end of spring is the most buzz. Ahead is still a long summer, baby in the air will always be. And while we are adjusting to a new way of life, we are trying to understand who should follow whom. "Oksana with three daughters. Photo: @ samoylovaoxanaPsychologists Oksana for "domesticity" for sure would be praised. Because they do not get tired of reminding: mother needs a child very much. More than colleagues, bosses and business. And lead five main reasons. Calm baby In the first months of life the world and rest to the child can only provide a caring and loving person who is always there. Their rituals with mom and baby appear from birth. And they are of great importance to him. Of course, everything can be delegated to a nanny. Together with the rituals: that's how we wake up, that's how we're going for a walk, that's how we put it to bed. But for the baby it will still be a "break in the template." For 9 months he was born by a woman whose smell, the sound of the heart and the rhythm of breathing, he, believe me, learns from a thousand. And then - a strange woman. He, of course, will get used to it. But on the general mental state of health it will be reflected. At a minimum, the baby will be in constant anxiety and finding a native smell. Want to grow up a calm and balanced person - do not neglect the decree! 2. Harmonious relationship with the childTo what we all dream. Confidential contact is also established from the first days of life. And here the effect of physical presence is very important. Children are simple. He has really close relationships with someone who cares about him day in, day out, plays, feeds, regrets, when it hurts, hugs, when it's sad. Therefore - "hugs", and the more, the better. When the mother is at work, the child will obviously not be embraced. 3. The ability of the kid to get along with the surroundingDumae, you just jump up on every squeak, just chirping over the baby, just hugging? No, you are doing something much more important. You form the basic trust in the child in the world, the intuitive confidence that it is good to live (and if it suddenly becomes bad, you will be helped, you will not be abandoned), in this world it is safe. A person endowed with this basic trust in adult life believes in himself, is open, optimistic and capable of long, deep and warm relations with other people. If in the first months of a child's life you sharply "break away" from him, disappearing from his field of vision for 3, 6, or even 9 hours, leaving him even to the very first-class nanny - you are undermining this very confidence. Morality is obvious.Фото: GettyImages4.The ability to spot talentDo you think that inclinations and abilities appear in children closer to school? No, not at all. As soon as the child has learned to crawl and hold objects, you can already start drawing conclusions. Draws on the walls, bangs a spoon on the table - maybe you have an artist or a musician? Sedentary or active? An athlete or an academic? A rare nanny will see talent or an inclination for something in your child. But a mother will attach importance to even the most insignificant attempt of the child to skip a couple of notes or shake his butt to the music. And she will send him to vocal or dancing classes in time! 5. Magical memoriesHere is your child trying to stand on his feet for the first time. Or for the first time he climbs onto the sofa by himself, using his own potty instead of a step. Or says "mama." Or for the first time he really hugs you. Or pours water on himself from a small toy bucket in the bathroom. For someone, this is a trifle, but in the life of a one-year-old (and his mother's too) it is a whole event! And priceless memories. For example, Oksana Samoylova shared a video of her middle daughter meeting her younger sister. It's so cute! May 2, 2017 at 7:58 PDT By the way When psychologists say that the mother's maximum presence in the child's life is important, we are not asking you to not be separated from him 24 hours a day. For some time, the baby can be left alone - without any stress for him. For example, a child under six months can easily endure an hour and a half to two hours without his mother. A six-month-old can be left with a nanny for about six hours. But starting from 9 months, a mother can easily go to work full time, if there is a need for it.