From time to time all parents ask themselves: "How do I want to see my child when he grows up?" I have an answer to this question: I want my daughter to grow up first and foremost a free person.Photo: Getty Images

Whatever the child may have been enjoying

When my wife and I were born Eve and we are all togetherbegan to travel, I began to pay more attention to European children and their parents. And I realized what they are very different from the Russian. A Western child can sit on the floor in an electric train, shout at the whole street, hang upside down on a horizontal bar. And Mom and Dad will not say a word to him, but they will continue to look into the smartphone or communicate with friends. I am sure that this is not indifference, they say, whatever the child may have tasted, if only I was not touched. This is their principled position. The parents of Russia, this behavior of European kids, as a rule, outrages. "They absolutely do not know how to behave. I would give my own already under the ass! "- whispers the Russian mother in her ear according to her nodding husband. By the way, after one case my wife also considers European children to be ill-bred. Once in Spain, we walked with my daughter on the playground, where mostly local people played (because we lived with friends, not at the epicenter of the resort town). The children rustled and rushed from one attraction to another. And then one of the boys went to the swing on which Eve was sitting, and sat down next to him - a priest to the priest. My daughter found this insolence and left. My wife, of course, thought that the baby was kicked out, and also upset. A mother "hooligan" just stood aside and smiled. If such a situation occurred in Russia, then the boy's parent would immediately be ashamed of him. When we are walking with Eve on the playground in Russia, the cackling of the mothers over their children never stops for a minute: "Do not shout!", "Do not run!", "Do not go there!", "Be more careful!". The child can not step a step, not having run into another shout.Photo: Getty Images

Less scope, more freedom

We come up with a bunch of unnecessary restrictions and ourselvesWe cultivate from our children complexes that will remain with them for life. If my child does not want to go by the hand, but wants to run ahead, what's wrong with that? What's terrible, if he's crouched in the sand? Why, if she wants to step into a puddle, do I have to read her morals? The only thing is when I tight-lipped my child, if she does something that threatens her life and health, for example, climbs onto the windowsill and tries to open the window or runs out on the roadway. Otherwise, there are no problems. I really do not think that something that I have listed is a bad upbringing. The child himself must fill his bumps. For me, there is nothing to worry about if he falls and breaks his nose. He himself can draw the right conclusions, and my task is to push the child towards them without imposing his adult opinion. Unfortunately, our society and social institutions like to drive people into the framework. Especially in this business zealous kindergartens and schools - they seem to set themselves the task of educating obedient and equal citizens! Therefore, we, parents, should first of all be tolerant of a small person who is just beginning to recognize this world.

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