Why do not you need senior advice like that?follow and form the attachment between mother and child in the first three months after birth, Woman's Day was told by Tatyana Aptulayeva, a practicing psychologist, author of the bestselling book about pregnancy and preparation for childbirth "Mother and Child. Encyclopedia of happy motherhood "and books about the development of the child.Tatiana Aptulaeva Photo:personal archive - Once, on a distant August day, five years ago, returning from a walk, I clearly felt that the stroller, which I habitually rolled in parks for 2-3 hours every day for the second month, is absolutely my own big belly. It just detached itself, and I swing it at a distance. And in it is a daughter of three weeks old. And I was overwhelmed with a confident feeling that my pregnancy was somehow miraculously continuing. It touched me, moved and amused me. But from the point of view of attachment theory, this feeling was psychologically absolutely accurate.

Sensor system

A photo: Getty Images The fourth trimester of pregnancy is a beautiful poetic metaphor for the first three months after childbirth. More prosaically the same period is called adaptive - the time when both mother and newborn learn and get used to a new way of interaction, communication, understanding and feeling each other not only at the level of internal bodily sensations. From the very first moment after delivery, the entire sensory system is turned on in full, and the two begin to recognize each other and feel. Now they see, hear, touch, smell, warm, the child first taste the taste of milk. The most surprising thing is that this communication and recognition takes place without a single word. Just because the newborn does not have them yet. In the first three months after the birth of a child, a woman experiences that amazing condition when she feels a particularly close relationship with him. With a harmonious perception of their pregnancy and motherhood, this is a natural strong desire to maintain a physical and emotional connection, expressing it in love and care. This deep need, full of tenderness and affection for the infant, contains in itself quite practical tasks that are aimed at its harmonious, full-fledged physical and psychological development. If not one but ...

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