"You know, I have my Max up to two years old"my friend Anya boasted." I admired the Maks: blood with milk, very smart, small, calm and sensible. "Another friend of Tasia told me what a joy it is to feed the baby herself." For kids, contact with my mother's skin is very important, they must remember your smell, your taste, only in the future you will have a good trusting relationship, "Tasya, the mother of the three-year-old Denis, told me. Because of the importance of breastfeeding, I read and heard from everywhere. That neither the blog, forum, site devoted to motherhood, from the first page sounded parting words: only mother's milk! No friend is a well-deserved lactating mother of Russia. At the courses for pregnant women in the local women's clinic categorically stated: if the mother does not breast-feed the child, she does not like the child, she is selfish and hypocritical. In general, when milk did not come immediately after cesarean, I began to slowly become discouraged.
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Chest bare
In the maternity hospital, doctors come twice a dayThey looked at my breasts. “Your nipples are flat, the baby won’t take them, you need nipple shields,” one doctor decided. “You need to take a syringe, cut off the thin end carefully and pull out the nipples, nipple shields won’t help,” the second one shared her advice. “Let the baby try to suckle the breast for a few hours, and everything will work out,” the third one suggested. “Why, mommy, weren’t you prepared,” the fourth one clucked. And only the fifth one allowed us to start feeding while my baby was screaming hysterically from hunger. In total, I received 8 different recommendations. But the milk came to me only when I returned home. It came so much that I felt sick. Everything that my daughter didn’t eat, I had to express, I was bursting with fullness. But the celebration didn’t last long: the milk came unexpectedly, and then left. I had to go to the store for bottles and formula.
Judge can not be pardoned
The saleswoman at the children's goods store looked atme like a monster. Of course, the baby is only a few weeks old, and the viper mother is already accustoming the baby to fast food, albeit specialized. "It's your business, but I wouldn't buy formula, try calling the milk fairies," she suggested to me. I was ready to cry, how lousy a mother I am, but my husband took me out of the store, and then went in himself and bought the necessary jar and accessories. In search of contacts of trusted milk fairies, I turned to my friend Tasya. "You have nothing to do, they are called milk fascists behind their backs," she stunned me. "I transferred Denis to formula almost immediately, and there was little milk, and because of stress, the last was gone." Tasya, it seems, completely forgot that she bragged to me how she fed her son with her own milk. Anya, who "fed Max until he was two," could not help me either. That's when it turned out that it wasn't until two, but only three weeks. And then the milk disappeared. "I had a cesarean too, breastfeeding is practically out of the question for people like us," said Anechka. "Stop messing around and switch completely to formula, don't torture yourself and your body." Mommies, admit it, why are you lying that you fed your babies with breast milk almost until first grade? Thanks to you, other new parents feel inferior. It's true! After all, we are ready to go three days without sleep, three days without pumping and drinking lactation teas that work on the principle of "a poultice for the dead" in order to reach your dubious heights.
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Very evil fairy
Milk fairies are a separate story.Almost every mother who has successfully breastfed her baby or decided that her experience was successful considers herself a specialist. As a result, you hear about "feed on demand", even if these demands are with a half-hour break, "feed in sleep, feed everywhere and always." And if you do not feed, burn in hell, because you became a mother by mistake, a very evil mockery of nature. It seems that if we were in the Middle Ages, those who feed with formula would be burned at the stake, and logs would be thrown into the fire by their more successful lactation comrades. Well, and the fire would be lit by those same milk fairies for three thousand rubles an hour. You take a can of formula - the first thing they tell you is that you are doing wrong, that you should feed with mother's milk, but so be it, you are poisoning the baby - since you do not love. All that was left was to put the baby's stomach on the can's label, like the damaged organs on cigarette packs. And a slogan something like "the mixture kills." I won't even mention mental development, health, and other horror stories, they've already become boring. This is interesting Milk formula for newborns was invented in the second half of the 19th century in Germany. Chemist and pharmacist Henri (Henry) Nestle studied the composition of breast milk and invented the first dry milk formula, which included dry cow's milk, powdered sugar, and wheat flour without starch. In 1867, the finished product appeared on store shelves. They asked 50 cents for a can.
About myself
Gradually the milk began to return.This became possible only after I forgave myself for my empty breasts. But it is unlikely that I will be able to switch to breastfeeding completely. I am not of the dairy breed, what can I do. And I no longer feel inferior. And you don't feel inferior either! Did you breastfeed your child?
- Yes, she fed me, and for a very long time. But I was lucky.
- I'm sure those who don't feed themselves are just selfish.
- No, I did not have milk, and I'm not ashamed of it.
- I could not give the baby a milk and still blame myself for it.
- I consciously switched to the mixture, I often had to leave the house.
- I had to choose artificial feeding for health reasons.
- I leave my answer in the comments.
Have you fed your baby with a breast?
- Yes, she fed me, and for a very long time. But I was lucky. 54.6%
- I'm sure those who do not feed themselves are simply selfish. 4.4%
- No, I did not have milk, and I'm not ashamed of it.19,8%
- I could not give the baby a milk and still blame myself for this.3.9%
- She consciously switched to the mixture, she often had to leave the house.4.9%
- I had to choose artificial feeding for health reasons.7.0%
- I leave my answer in the comments. 5.4%
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