“Situation: fitness club, women's changing room. Naked aunts scamper everywhere (some from the shower, some from the pool), and a boy of about nine sits next to my locker. The question is - how to wear a swimsuit? Or else - I go out of the pool into the shower, I start to take off the swimsuit, my mother and her son come out of the sauna. Damn, she thinks it's okay ?! She washed him there slowly, she herself was also naked. In general, today, after seeing two boys of okoloshkolnogo age in the locker room, I almost told my mothers everything that I think. All I stopped was that I know what I will say in response - he is still a child! I remember myself at the age of 5-6 and I can’t imagine who I would grow up, take my dad to the men's bath ... ”Photo: shot from the movie "Home Alone"

I see nothing ...

As soon as the forum appeared heartbreakingthe message, similar stories fell down in comments, as from a horn of plenty. “One mother, while she changed clothes, put a towel over her head and then took off, and he sat and looked at the women. A 9-year-old child, he was already deliberately looking at everything, ”retold a story he heard from his wife, Konstantin, one of those discussing the problem. The man even threatened to complain to the prosecutor's office: they say, theoretically, the situation can be seen as defilement of minors. As a result, in this particular gymnasium they began to ensure that boys over 3 years old were not allowed into the women's changing room. Especially there, it turns out, there was a playroom for children, in which you can safely leave the child for two hours for free while mom is sweating on the walkway. But there is one more question. Isn't it too early for a boy at five, six, or even nine years old, to be so frank to see a naked female body? Not my mother's - and someone else. The psyche of children is fragile, and suddenly get injured?

"Rush on a flat spot"

- What about psychological trauma - complete nonsense,- considers 32-year-old Marina, mother of a 12-year-old son. - Previously, children in the villages from early childhood knew very well the difference between a man and a woman, as well as where the children come from, helped peasant parents to give birth to cows, watched a cat or a whelping dog. And no one had any injuries - on the contrary, there was a healthy and natural attitude to how nature arranged it. And there were no such number of pedophiles and perverts of all stripes. Marina is sure: with our unhealthy excitement around the difference between the sexes we are making future men injured. In her opinion, it was necessary not to throw a towel over the head of the child, as if something shameful were going on in the dressing room, but just calmly explaining to him what a woman is different from a man. - Children at any age, if they communicate normally, feel normal . The boy would have looked a little, and then he would have lost interest, would have buried himself in a book or tablet. I have a familiar family, where dad, mom and children bathe in the bath together. And nothing, a beautiful family, properly educated good children.

"On the nudist beach son bring"

- I consider it unacceptable to show the boysnaked women, and girls - naked men. I myself am annoyed by the bare little tots on the beach, ”says the 22-year-old childless Katerina. The girl wonders why you can't wear panties to the baby? But there are still beaches for nudists, and these people claim that walking naked is normal. - I will never lead my child to a nudist beach! There really is a child can get a psychological trauma. In kindergarten, sometimes boys and girls take off their panties and show each other what is beneath them, and this, too, is probably not entirely normal. And this mother with a towel has completely lost her mind, since she considers it normal to drive the boy to where there are many naked women. She herself develops her son's unhealthy curiosity, and it is not yet known how this will affect him in the future.

"It's okay, but better not."

And what do experts think about this? Bessarion Gvilava, child psychologist, specialist in work with difficult teenagers: - There is nothing especially terrible in the fact that the boy was spying on women, and nothing terrible will happen to him in the future. Although, of course, it all depends on the individual psychological characteristics of a person and on the child’s age. Our expert believes that if the child was not involved in views forcibly, for some purpose, then there would be no particular harm. on the boy's head, - this is some violence against the person. All the same, the child saw everything, says the psychologist. The expert recalled that even in former times the boys liked to spy on women in the baths, we know this from cinema and literature. And nothing, no deviations. “But from the age of 11–12 and older, I would advise you not to give the child any extra impressions from looking at the crowd of naked women,” cautions Bessarion Gvilava.

• Not. It is impolite towards other women in the locker room.
• Yes, if left with no one.
• Not. Still, not for children's eyes picture.
• Of course, what's wrong with that? What is natural is not ugly.

Voted: 6170What do you think, is it worth taking the boy with you to the locker room?

• Not. It is impolite to other women in the dressing room. 65.9%
• Yes, if left to someone.3.8%
• Not. Still, the picture is not for children's eyes. 22.5%
• Of course, what's wrong with that? What is natural is not ugly. 7.8%

Voted: 6170

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