“Situation: fitness club, women's changing room. Naked aunts scamper everywhere (some from the shower, some from the pool), and a boy of about nine sits next to my locker. The question is - how to wear a swimsuit? Or else - I go out of the pool into the shower, I start to take off the swimsuit, my mother and her son come out of the sauna. Damn, she thinks it's okay ?! She washed him there slowly, she herself was also naked. In general, today, after seeing two boys of okoloshkolnogo age in the locker room, I almost told my mothers everything that I think. All I stopped was that I know what I will say in response - he is still a child! I remember myself at the age of 5-6 and I can’t imagine who I would grow up, take my dad to the men's bath ... ”Photo: shot from the movie "Home Alone"

I see nothing ...

As soon as a heartbreaking story appeared on the forummessage, similar stories poured out in the comments like a horn of plenty. “One mother, while she was changing, threw a towel over her son’s head, and then took it off – and he sat there, staring at the women. The child was about 9 years old, he was already consciously looking at everything,” Konstantin, one of those discussing the problem, retold the story he heard from his wife. The man even threatened to complain to the prosecutor’s office: they say, theoretically, the situation can be considered as corruption of minors. As a result, in this particular gym, they began to ensure that boys over 3 years old were not allowed into the women’s locker room. Moreover, it turns out that there was a playroom for children, where you can quite safely leave your child for two hours free of charge, while your mother sweats on the track. But there is another question. Isn’t it too early for a boy of five, six, or even nine years old to so openly see a naked female body? Not his mother’s, but someone else’s. Children's psyche is fragile, what if they get injured?

"Hyper-hype out of nowhere"

— As for psychological trauma, it’s complete.nonsense, - says 32-year-old Marina, mother of a 12-year-old son. - Previously, children in villages from early childhood knew perfectly well the difference between a man and a woman, as well as where children come from, helped their peasant parents deliver cows, watched a cat give birth or a dog give birth. And no one had any injuries - on the contrary, there was a healthy and natural attitude to how nature arranged things. And there were not so many pedophiles and perverts of all stripes. Marina is sure: it is we who, with our unhealthy excitement around the difference in gender, make future men traumatized. In her opinion, it was necessary not to throw a towel over the child's head, as if something shameful was happening in the locker room, but simply calmly explain to him how a woman differs from a man. - Children of any age, if you communicate with them normally, perceive everything normally. A boy would watch for a while, and then lose interest, would bury his nose in a book or tablet. I know a family where dad, mom and kids wash in the bathhouse together. And nothing, a wonderful family, well-brought up good children.

"Take your son to a nudist beach"

- I think it is unacceptable to show it to boys.naked women, and girls - naked men. I myself am irritated by naked kids on the beach, - says 22-year-old Katerina, who is still childless. The girl is perplexed - why can't she put panties on the baby? But there are also beaches for nudists, and these people claim that walking around naked is normal. - I will never take my child to a nudist beach! The child can really get psychological trauma there. In kindergarten, sometimes boys and girls take off their panties and show each other what's underneath, and this is also probably not entirely normal. And this mother with a towel has completely lost her mind if she thinks it is normal to take her boy to a place where there are a lot of naked women. She herself is developing an unhealthy curiosity in her son, and it is still unknown how this will affect him in the future.

"It's okay, but it's better not to"

What do experts think about this?Bessarion Gvilava, child psychologist, specialist in working with difficult teenagers: - There is nothing particularly terrible in the fact that the boy was spying on women, and most likely nothing terrible will happen to him in the future. Although, of course, everything depends on the individual psychological characteristics of the person and the age of the child. Our expert believes that if the child was not forced to watch for some purpose, then there will be no particular harm. - I am more concerned about the towel that the mother threw over the boy's head - this is some violence against the individual. All the same, the child saw everything, - says the psychologist. The specialist recalled: boys in the old days liked to spy on women in baths, we know this from movies and literature. And nothing, no deviations. - But from the age of 11-12 and older, I would advise not to give the child unnecessary impressions from looking at a crowd of naked women, - warns Bessarion Gvilava. What do you think, is it worth taking a boy with you to the locker room?

• Not. It is impolite towards other women in the locker room.
• Yes, if left with no one.
• Not. Still, not for children's eyes picture.
• Sure, what's wrong with that? What's natural isn't ugly.

Voted: 6170What do you think, is it worth taking the boy with you to the locker room?

• Not. It is impolite to other women in the dressing room. 65.9%
• Yes, if left to someone.3.8%
• Not. Still, the picture is not for children's eyes. 22.5%
• Of course, what's wrong with that? What is natural is not ugly. 7.8%

Voted: 6170

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