Phenomenon when a child voluntarily agreesleave the parent bed and sleep in his bed - rare, if not exceptional! Many couples do not know how to solve this problem. There are different opinions on this matter: some say that a joint sleep of mother and child is useful, arguing that a closer energy bond is formed and children grow up more self-confident, healthy and calm. Others, on the contrary, argue that the child’s habit of sleeping with parents develops into quite serious consequences for both the child and the parents.
"Yes" or "no" to sleep together?
Photo: Gettyimages.com Indeed, between the ages of 0 months and up to two and a half years, there are many factors that are in favor of joint sleep of the baby and parents. First is the need to stay close to the mother around the clock, then the fear of darkness or loneliness. If you love your child and do not want to traumatize the child's psyche, then you should not carry out a revolution and relocate it to a separate room when a child reaches the age of three years. That's when they leave the parent's bed is not so painful. It is worth waiting for this moment. Practicing psychologist Natalya Shevtsova agreed to comment on this situation for Wday.ru. She also gave a number of recommendations to parents, like a son or daughter, to form the habit of sleeping in a separate cot.
- If children sleep with their parents for too long - thiswill inevitably affect the sex life of the couple is not the best way. And in children who sleep with their parents between the ages of 3 and 6, the Oedipus complex (in boys) and the Electra complex in girls are formed, which adversely affects in adulthood the ability to build relationships with the opposite sex. decided to wean the baby to sleep in his bed? There are a lot of strategies and techniques, but you need to understand that safety and emotional comfort of both mother and baby are important first of all! Do not be stressful for him and in no case leave him alone at first! On the contrary, if the toddler is still quite small, try starting up to 1 year by moving his bed to your own, removing the front wall, so the baby will get used to be on his territory, but will feel that the native person is near and he is not alone. After some time, the bed can be returned to the place.
Night rituals are important
This phenomenon is also not uncommon – up to threeyears old, the child sleeps peacefully in his crib, and then begins to visit mom and dad more and more often, and as a result, wins his place in the parental bedroom, displacing dad to the sofa! In this case, pre-sleep rituals will help: evening reading of fairy tales, lavender baths for a deeper and more restful sleep, lullabies and special motivational fairy tales that talk about the benefits of sleeping in your own crib, how this develops courage and other positive character traits. You can even come up with such a fairy tale yourself and include your baby's favorite characters in it. Just do not scare him under any circumstances! Bogeymen and wolves are not the best way to instill the right habit, rather the opposite, this can cause the formation of various complexes! Be firm in your intentions and do not give in to hysterics and whims! Pity is a bad adviser, it is better to overcome yourself and, having calmed the baby, help him fall asleep in his bed. The more you indulge your child's whims, the harder it will be to achieve your goal. Remember that the reason for the need to sleep with mom is the desire to feel love and attention! If you satisfy this basic need of the child before sleep, then he will calmly and happily fall asleep on his own territory!
