The fact that a preschooler is explosive and flashy is notdo not worry, this is a feature of temperament. Some children aged 3 to 7 years show aggression, thus focusing attention on themselves. Often circumstances provoke a crumb to show physical strength. This is either the parents who hold their son or daughter in hedgehogs, or a provocateur, he may well be in the children's team. If someone periodically calls or picks up the baby, sooner or later he will not respond in the best way. It will not necessarily hit the offender, but will displace the anger on someone else. Try to go through these six steps, they will surely lead you to peace in the house.
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1. Parent example
Start with yourself.In any situation, you must be calm and restrained. Control your emotions and words, do not show irritation and discontent, even if there is a reason for it. Physical punishment is taboo. If you occasionally allow yourself to lightly spank your child, remember that he can take this method into service. And when he is in a bad mood, he will try it.
2. Love and compassion
Instead of scolding for something unworthybehavior, sit next to the baby, hug and pity. And then ask him to tell you what happened, what is the reason for the anger. Try to listen carefully, ask questions. It is important for children to feel their mother's love in any situation. In order not to lose trust, ask more often how the day went in the kindergarten or school.
3. Verbal alternative
Explain patiently that it is not okay to hurtpeople and animals. And be sure to offer a way out, say that fighting is prohibited, but you can say: "I'm terribly angry," "I'm upset." This way you will gradually instill the habit of talking about negative feelings. And even if someone in the group shows aggression towards the child, he will know that this is not a reason to respond in kind. It is better to resolve conflicts peacefully, without fists.
4. Prevention
If you manage to catch the moment when the childis irritated and about to lose his temper, say loudly: "Repeat after me, breathe!" And show him how to do it. You need to inhale deeply through your nose, clench your fists, tense your muscles, especially your shoulders and facial muscles, and then exhale noisily and forcefully through your mouth. After repeating this exercise several times, the rebel will switch over and quickly calm down.
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5. Emotional release
Help your little one to let out negative emotionsfeelings. You can't suppress them, it's dangerous for your health. You can hit a pillow, a rug, a punching bag. Allow them to scream monotonously, without words: "A-a-a!", squeal, growl, stamp their feet, run around the apartment until exhaustion. If you give your child the opportunity to "live out" anger with their body, they will stop attacking others.
6. Physical activity
Enroll the brawler in a sports section.Martial arts are suitable - aikido, wushu, kung fu. They will teach you how to breathe correctly, concentrate on internal sensations, and be aware of them. It happens that the desire to fight arises during adaptation to the daily routine in kindergarten or the bell schedule at school. An active child begins to splash out irritation on peers. A passive one is stubborn, refuses to eat and play. These symptoms also require attention.
