The fact that a preschooler is explosive and flashy is notdo not worry, this is a feature of temperament. Some children aged 3 to 7 years show aggression, thus focusing attention on themselves. Often circumstances provoke a crumb to show physical strength. This is either the parents who hold their son or daughter in hedgehogs, or a provocateur, he may well be in the children's team. If someone periodically calls or picks up the baby, sooner or later he will not respond in the best way. It will not necessarily hit the offender, but will displace the anger on someone else. Try to go through these six steps, they will surely lead you to peace in the house.
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1. Parent example
Start with yourself. In any situation, you must be calm and restrained. Control emotions and words, do not show irritation and discontent, even if there is a reason for this. Physical punishment is taboo. If you occasionally allow yourself to slightly slap the child, remember that he can take this technique. And when he is in a bad mood, he will test it.
2. Love and sympathy
Instead of scolding for the unworthybehavior, sit next to the crumbs, hug and take pity. And then ask to tell what happened, what is the cause of anger. Try to listen carefully, ask questions. It is important for children to feel mother's love in any situation. In order not to lose confidence, more often ask how the day passed in the garden or school.
3. Verbal alternative
Patiently explain not to hurt.people and animals. And be sure to offer a way out, say that fighting is forbidden, but you can say: “I'm terribly angry,” “I'm upset.” So you will gradually inculcate the habit of pronouncing negative feelings. And even if someone in the team shows aggression against the baby, he will know that this is not a reason to respond the same. It is better to resolve conflicts peacefully, without fists.
4. Prevention
If you can catch the moment when the childannoyed and about to break away, say loudly: “Repeat after me, breathe!” And show me how to do it. It is necessary to inhale deeply with the nose, clench your fists, strain the muscles, especially the shoulders and facial muscles, and then breathe out noisily through the mouth. After repeating this exercise several times, the rebel will switch and calm down quickly.
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5. Emotional degradation
Help your baby throw out negative feelings. They can not be suppressed, it is dangerous to health. You can beat a pillow, a rug, a punching bag. Allow to shout monotonously, without words: “A-ah-ah!”, Squeal, growl, stamp feet, rush about the apartment to exhaustion. If you give your child the opportunity to "live" anger with his body, he will cease to rush to others.
6. Exercise
Record a fighter in the sports section. Suitable martial arts - aikido, wushu, kung fu. They will learn to breathe properly, to concentrate on internal sensations, to be aware of them. It happens that the craving for fights arises during adaptation to the day regimen in kindergarten or the schedule of calls at school. The active child begins to throw out irritation on peers. Passive - shows stubbornness, refuses to eat and play. These symptoms also need attention.
