- Here's my face and at least three years in the office is notI will appear, - girlfriend Svetka lovingly strokes rounded belly. - Enough. Has worked. I will be next to the baby as long as possible. I nod: my mother is next to me in the first two years of my life - this is a quiet kid, and harmonious relations, and the right development, and the opportunity to see the first steps, to hear the first words. In general, do not miss the key points. "I'll sit for exactly three years," Sveta continues. "Or maybe I'll quit it altogether." It's better at home. I'm not arguing with her. But having spent not a year in the decree, not two, but six years, I can say for myself: if it were not for certain circumstances with which it is still difficult for me to argue, I would not just go to the office - I ran, dropping the tapki.No, I I'm not going to make a stunning career now (though, maybe a little later and yes). I'm definitely not one of those who are ready to stand at the bench until midnight, having shaken off the dear child to the nurse-mum. But I am sure that a full-time working day is absolutely necessary. And not only me, but my child. And that's why.
Photo: GettyImages1.I want to talk I can type quickly. Very fast. Sometimes I feel like I type faster than I speak. Because 90 percent of my communication is virtual. Social networks, Skype, messengers are my friends, colleagues and everyone else. In real life, my main interlocutors are my husband, mother, mother-in-law and son. Basically, of course, the son. And so far I can not discuss everything I want with him. He's not ready to talk about politics yet, and I'm not ready to talk about the new season of Paw Patrol. The decree has worn out the “brain shutdown” stamp in the decree, but this is, alas, the truth. I've gone wild. Meeting up with girlfriends on weekends will not save the "father of Russian democracy." Will save the exit to live work. 2. I want to be missed— Mom, dad is coming soon — Timofey starts walking in circles in front of the door two hours before the end of the working day. - the son runs ahead of everyone to the door, meeting her husband from work. - Well, when will it be ... - impatiently waits for his father to have supper. From the side it may seem that the third mother is superfluous. Of course it is not. But against the background of the father, who exists in the child's life for two hours a day from Monday to Friday, the mother clearly pales. Moreover, you understand who, in this situation, scolds and educates more. So it turns out that dad is a holiday, and mom is a routine. The child treats her care more selfishly, as if something is due. I don’t think that’s right. To be honest, it wouldn’t hurt me to miss the child. Maybe to look at him with a slightly different, fresh look. And a little from the side to see how he grows up. And when he is next to you almost inseparable, he always seems like a crumb.
Photo: GettyImages3.I want to earn On maternity leave I left a decent position and a decent salary. Our income with my spouse was quite comparable. I started working part-time when Timofey was 10 months old. But the amount I can earn from home is ridiculous compared to what it was before and what it could be now. Fortunately, the family does not need money at the moment. Nevertheless, without my own salary, I feel uncomfortable and partly even somewhere unprotected. I feel calmer when I understand: if something happens, I can take responsibility for my family, but even if I don’t think about the bad, I, for example, feel uncomfortable taking money from my husband’s salary to give him a gift. 4. I want my son to develop Last year, British scientists found that the skills of children of working mothers who are forced to attend kindergarten are 5-10 percent higher than those who tried to teach everything at home. Moreover, even grandparents in this regard influence grandchildren more positively than parents. Either they entertain more actively, or they do more. By the way, a similar phenomenon has probably been noted more than once by most mothers. And including me. Children are much more active and more willing to do something new with a stranger than with mom and dad, to whom they are accustomed and which you can twirl as you want.
