1. You already do not have the energy that was in 20 years

Yes, you still remember your 20s and those days whenable to stay up late partying or study for exams until midnight, and wake up in the morning feeling like you could run a marathon. Sure, your energy levels are a little lower in your 30s. But that's okay.Photo: iStock/Gettyimages.ru

2. You are afraid of missing out on something important.

One of the expected consequences ofWhen you have a baby, you stop going out: you’ve “lived your life” and the partying is over. You probably aren’t interested in bar hopping at 30, but you still want to get out and socialize. You still love brunches at cafes, lunches or dinners at nice restaurants… But with kids, it’s hard to lead a busy life. So you start scrolling through your feed: you’re babysitting your baby, you spend a long time packing strollers, a diaper bag and a baby carrier, you get in the car and try to catch up with your friends. Don’t worry, Mommy, it’s okay to miss your life. Give yourself time to grieve.

3. You will have to educate your children and take care of aging parents at the same time

"My son will be 10 when my motherwill be 70, while my older sister (who became a mother at 20) will have 20-year-old children. She will be done raising children by the time our mother will need additional support…” It’s not just the time spent caring for parents, it’s also the financial costs that fall on the family. And this is not the same math as when you were 25, when you could spend your salary on dinner at a restaurant.

4. Are you happy that in your 20s you were just with yourself

Every woman can decide for herself when it is right for herIt's better to have kids. For some, their 20s are the best. First, you've had time to think about whether you really want kids. Then you've had time to look at others and figure out how you want to raise your own kids. And you've had time to let go of the things you brought from childhood into adulthood. That doesn't mean you've evolved by your 30s. But by your 30s, you've completely transformed. For some, there's no best option. Just understand that for everyone, there's an option that's best for them.

5. You can not tell, gray hair and wrinkles on the forehead are caused by maternity or age

You start to see wrinkles and grey hair,that you've never seen before and aren't sure where they came from. Welcome to middle-aged parenting! You can take your life back to your 50s when the kids go away to college, although you may look older than you are. People who had kids younger said they were happy to be raising teenagers in their 40s. But they won't necessarily look any better than everyone else.Photo: Getty Images

6. Do you want to have more time for making life-saving decisions?

In your 20s, no one will tell you to hurry up andhave another baby or “just get it over with.” No one else is there to remind you that your eggs are dying and you need to find “him” and make a baby. In your 20s, time feels endless. As you approach 30, it feels like milestones in your life are ticking off at a breakneck pace. When you’re in your 30s, you should be behind buying a home, finding your passion, and having a baby—everyone is striving for that. So there’s a lot of pressure in your 30s.

7. Money and in 30 years cause concern

Money influences many of our decisions.This is also very personal. We put off having children because we want to be financially stable first. But there is no guarantee that once we decide to get pregnant and have stability, everything will not suddenly fall apart and we will not be laid off and lose our income. In our 20s, we play with life; in our 30s, we manage expectations. The truth is that having children is a joy and a challenge at any age. No matter how old you are, you can be a great parent. It is important to create a space where women have a choice about when to start a family - at 25, 35 or even 45. Another truth is that you are you and you will always be you, no matter your age. You will never stop having your own needs, desires and aspirations. At any age, you should always find the time and make the effort to develop yourself, even if you are caring for another person.

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