Find the right moment to inform the senior aboutadding to the family, I did not speak for a long time to my daughter that I was waiting for the baby. She herself did not believe in her happiness. I've wanted a child for so long! She said only on the fourth or fifth month. I collected them and said: "I have an important statement for you: you will have a brother or sister." Monica (a girl of five years old - Antenna note) was immediately delighted, she is very loving, and Alina at the age of 12 keeps all the emotions in herself, that's why she took the news seriously. Maybe she still remembered what it was like when Monica was born. At that character explosive, she active, loves attention, so that the elder then got.A photo: Anna Sedokova's press office. Make the elderly involved with the expectation. I reminded my daughters that I was counting on their help, that they would feed me with the baby, feed them, and the girls were very happy about it. Monica did not go to the kindergarten without kissing my tummy. And Alina, as an adult, was insanely worried about me, watched that I did not lift anything heavy. In general, all the new members of the family were eagerly awaited. In order not to be torn between children, spend time together. What I did not expect was that with the advent of the third child, the process of putting everyone to bed will be the most difficult. Children all fall at one time. And they got used to having their backs scratched, fairy tales telling, and you just do not have so many hands. It was decided to sleep until the four of us, so that I would not be torn. And the girls have never complained that the brother wakes up at night. On the contrary, when my strength is running out and I'm ready to give up, suddenly Monica's hand with a pacifier stretches toward me in the dark. Monica and Alina help me sometimes and rock my brother and calm him. It's very valuable. Do not label the problem until it emerged. The appearance of a new person of the family dictates and changes the habitual way of life for everyone else. The child is keenly aware of this. And it can provoke jealousy. But we have a word such in the family vocabulary is simply missing. I am convinced: the wolf that feeds wins. If you give too much attention to the question of jealousy and constantly say to the elders: "Do not be offended, that your brother gets more, your mother loves you too", involuntarily become a victim of one's words, and one of the children will surely begin to feel deprived.Photo:Anna Sedokova's press serviceRelax and enjoy your familyIn general, with a third child there is a big reassessment of values, you begin to concentrate on important things and pay less attention to trifles. I am a terrible perfectionist by nature. It was always important to me that my daughters were perfectly dressed, went to school with perfectly done homework. But dressing three children in all clean clothes, having time to feed each one and send them off on their own business turned out to be simply impossible. While you are busy with the second, the first one has already spilled compote on himself. I reassure myself that it is not a big deal if one day my daughter goes to school with a stain on her T-shirt. It is better to save your nerves, it seems to me that a calm mother is the key to family happiness. For example, right now Monica is doing her homework standing on a chair with her feet, shouting something there and drawing on her notebooks. You need to have a strong nervous system not to start shouting: "Sit on your butt, stop fooling around," but just let her do her homework the way she likes. Although, believe me, this is also difficult for me. Allow the child to be herself, do not compare her with anyone, do not give unnecessary reasons to feel imperfect. Recently, for the first time, I had a big fight with Alina. Because she spends a lot of time on the phone. In vain, as it seems to me. Like all parents, I sometimes get carried away in the process of creating the best copy of myself from my children, I repeat day after day that it is easier to learn languages now than at 22, and it is also easier to do the splits now than at 44. I want them to avoid some mistakes, and children, like all children, want no one to bother them and just live. So I have to fight first with my daughters, and then with myself, reminding myself that they have their own path. And I have nothing to worry about, my children are wonderful, they are the main treasure in my life. Here one came running and pulled me by the hand, so I went to do my homework. Be a team. But every child should have the opportunity to spend time alone with their mother. I teach the girls to concentrate on the good things, I tell them that we are a family, a team, that we need to support each other, that I can’t do it without them, and my brother can’t do it without them, because they are the most important people in his life. Every child should feel needed, have their own role in the house, and at the same time separate time to be alone with their mother. Untouchable. For example, with Monica, we do our homework together every day, with Alina we walk the dog. ...Read More