10 Principles of Natural Parenting - Pros and Cons

It is also called natural or natural.upbringing. The basis is trust and only trust between parents and child. The baby does not become the center of the universe, but simply one of the family members with whom they are considered. And at any age. “A child even in two weeks already has not only natural needs, but also feelings,” - one of the postulates of a friend who follows this method of education voices me. - The basic principles are based on creating for the child the most natural conditions for the upbringing and development. Some of them are definitely good. Others, in our opinion, are controversial and give up fanaticism. It is most terrible when natural mothers begin to impose their principles on others. Although often they themselves are not too versed in the method. So remember: everything is good in moderation.A photo: GettyImagesLife-sensing “What does it mean to feed a child on demand? - the mother-in-law of my friend was indignant. “He must have developed a food regime since birth!” “Natural” moms think differently. They listen to the desires and needs of the baby: they feed him when he gets hungry, they put him to bed when he gets tired. On the one hand, this is good. For feeding "on demand" is now advocating even in maternity hospitals. But only if the baby is breastfed. Babies who eat the mixture are strongly recommended to give it strictly on time. Milk value Breastfeed WHO recommends at least six months. "Natural" parents add: the longer the better. They do not shy away from offering the child a “system” at two and three years old. How to treat this, everyone decides for himself. Doctors do not see any harm in this, but psychologists say that the biological need is always met next to my mother. At the same time, the dummies are not welcome as a potential threat to bite and proper feeding. They are not forcibly weaning from the breast, they are waiting for the child to give up himself. Always be together There are two ways to satisfy this need. First, joint sleep. True, not everyone who practices it is a “natural scientist." Personally, I was just so convenient. But in the end, everyone was happy. By the way, if you are disgusted by the presence of the baby in the marital bed, you can push his bed close to her and remove the side wall. Everyone will stay on their territory. The second way is to carry a child in your arms. Contrary to the outraged "the child will be tame." Need free hands - learn sling. By the way, to study all the ways of its “winding” is a whole science. Do not cry, do not prohibit One more postulate of our grandmothers: crying louder, the lungs work better. And in the eyes of "naturalists" a cry is always a call for help, and if you don’t respond to it, there will be no mutual understanding. In addition, in their understanding, infancy is the age of development, not prohibitions. Can't you? Take it out of sight, and do not clap your hands. According to the pope? Sadists! It is necessary to cultivate gently, with the help of talk, but not shouting, threats and intimidation. “It is better to encourage good behavior ten times than to scold once for bad,” a friend explains to me.Photo:@dontforgetdadsPedagogical feedingBased on the baby's interest in adult food. Has it manifested itself? Give a microdose. It does not injure the body in any way, but the child will more easily switch to regular food. The principle is good if the child is not prone to allergies.I will give birth myself"Naturalists" advocate pregnancy and childbirth with minimal medical intervention or without it at all. It is assumed that they should take place in calm and favorable conditions. What doctors who have to deal with the consequences of home births think about this, we will not voice.Refusal of vaccinationThe topic is controversial. As they say on the Internet, "holy war". Given the Russian specifics, here, as in the topic of childbirth, you can collect a huge number of arguments both "for" and "against". But official medicine, of course, does not approve of refusers. As does any person who knows what herd immunity is and has seen the statistics of infectious diseases. No to DiapersThey believe that babies should be potty trained from the very first weeks of life. Disposable diapers are rejected as environmentally unfriendly and even harmful to health. Pediatricians, in turn, believe that everything has its time. The child must mature to the potty. So regular "pee-pee" over the sink will not develop reflexes.Refusal of Unjustified InterventionsThis is not only about medicine. This includes pacifiers, strollers, cribs, and playpens. In general, according to such parents, a child should not be alone in a confined space. That is, he has every reason to live in an absolutely free environment, like adults. You cannot limit his freedom. It cannot be difficult with a childAnd if it is difficult, it means you are doing something wrong. No need to fuss around him. Realize yourself as a woman, as a specialist, as an educated person. And then you will realize yourself as a proper calm mother, from whom the baby will follow an example.What to read on the topic1. William and Martha Sears. "Your Child from Birth to Two Years." 2. Jean Liedloff. "How to Raise a Happy Child. The Continuity Principle." 3. Ingrid Bauer. "No Diapers!"