We decided to collect the most tactless questions that Woman’s Day readers shared with us. If one of them suddenly wraps around in your tongue, remember: sometimes it's better to chew than talk.
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When there are no children ...
The fact that you and your husband don't try is your fault.It's hard to reproach. You're trying so hard that the neighbors are knocking on the wall. But the process is for the sake of the process. There's no talk of children yet. This is where the impatient ones come out, who have already calculated that not nine months have passed since the wedding, but ten, and you're still not without a baby, let alone a belly at the ready! The fact that this is your second marriage and one of the spouses already has a child can add fuel to the fire. - You're dragging it out with children for a long time, watch out, your husband will leave you like that. - Usually, the authors of such comments have a far from ideal family life. But we are masters at giving advice. - Why aren't you giving birth? Can't you get pregnant? Have you had it checked? Have you checked your husband? I have a doctor's phone number here - an infertility specialist, write it down. - And why is everyone so interested in other people's medical histories? Or maybe show your dental records, along with the results of your gynecologist's examination? - Did you know that the later you give birth, the greater the chance of giving birth to a sick child? - Thanks, captain. I haven't been banned from the Internet yet. - Don't you want children together? - None of your business. - Maybe you should try IVF already? - Or maybe you should try using speech filters? - (If you have experience with unsuccessful pregnancies or births) Aren't you afraid to try again? - Aren't you afraid that the wax from the candle you hold over our bed will burn your hands? Read on the Woman's Day forum: - I have two . And the third one, it seems, is also frozen. I stopped meeting with friends, it's very painful to hear questions: "And when?.." You can't tell everyone about your problems. - I have a son with cerebral palsy from my first marriage, several years of infertility treatment, and now IVF. I'm sick of questions: what if you don't give birth, don't you want a child together or something...
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... and when there are many children
No children is bad, many kids is even worse!It seems that there is nothing more interesting for the curious than to try to understand: how is it that people live so well that they give birth to three, four or even (oh, the horror!) five children. Well, something is definitely wrong here. And then the questions begin. - Is this what you wanted or was it just an accident? - We ran out of bullets - to shoot the storks. Oh well... Doesn't the stork bring the babies? - Are they really all yours? - No, we took this one in for temporary care, and someone abandoned this one. - Did you get pregnant yourself or did you do IVF? (Especially when there are twins or triplets in the family) - Do you want the details? Or just watch porn at home? - Does your religion not allow you to have an abortion or use contraception? (Option: are you a sectarian?) - Uh... The option "We always wanted a lot of children" is out of the question? - You probably wanted a girl/boy, right? (If all the children are of the same sex, said in a sympathetic tone) - Well, we don't really have children. But the process!.. - Well, do you get a lot of money in benefits? And did they give you an apartment? You probably have a lot of benefits! - A wonderful trait - counting money in someone else's wallet. - How do you cope? - Thank you, with your prayers. - Does your dad live with you? - Of course! A new dad every day. We pick him up from the street. - Do you have time to live for yourself? - As you can see, you even have time for sex. Read on the Woman's Day forum: - We have three boys. When the third was born, everyone said so sympathetically: "You probably wanted a girl." And what should I answer to him: "Yes, I wanted a girl, but this one was born"? - We have three girls. And my mother-in-law thinks that I am deliberately exaggeratedly happy about my daughters, since "we couldn't give birth to a boy." - We have five children in ten years. A neighbor recently asked: "Is this your hobby?" What can you say... Probably yes! P.S. You know, one wise man once said something incredibly beautiful in its simplicity: "Pass on by and forgive people their happiness." If each of us recalled these words more often when discussing our neighbor, how much more pleasant it would be to live. Each one - his own life.
