What should every mother promise in the New Year?

For those who have recently become a mother, weeks andmonths often merge into one endless day of marmot. Half-sleepless night, a half-baked breakfast, found in the evening on the table, frozen and bitter, like eternal fatigue, continuous cleaning, washing, there it is necessary to wipe, pick, shake, pet, change ... And, thank God, if a woman does not overtake postpartum depression and she has someone to call for help. Yes, this all needs to be changed. To begin with, to admit to yourself: you are not superwoman. You are a living person who is tired, who has run out of nerves and breaks down. And give yourself 10 promises, which must be fulfilled next year. To devote more time to yourself It is not important what you put into this concept. But your feelings and desires should not be in the last place after the needs of the child, husband, God knows who else. You also need time for yourself. And this is not selfishness. This is normal. Read a book, go to the pool, sit in a cafe with a friend, work out yoga. Yes, even to fall into bed with a magazine, a glass of wine and a donut. And forget about the feeling of guilt. All this is in the interests of your loved ones. Otherwise, they will lose you in the grief of bibs, diapers, bottles and dirty dishes.Photo: GettyImages2. To wake up Remember these beautiful nights, filled with velvety darkness, ringing silence, eight-hour healthy sleep? No? It's time to remember. Yes, while you get up on night feeding, the downed regime is your faithful companion. But the older children become, the calmer they sleep themselves. So you relax. Maybe it's time to separate the child from the parental bed? Just look in the mirror and ask your bags under your eyes what they think about it. Slowly to take a shower It's a shame to say, but sometimes there is no time for it either. Dirty hair, an ever-wet t-shirt stained with tears, snot, drooling, eating, or from the fact that someone had just vomited on it. Corresponding smell, unshaven legs, lack of sex. And how it would be cool to stand for forty minutes under the scorching water. Or lie in a foam bath filled with rose petals, fragrant salt. Just close your eyes and pretend that no diapers in your life exist. Remember about sex "Do what you want, just do not wake up," - mutter you husband and turn to him with his back. And this is understandable. But let's be honest: do not you really like sex? Allow yourself at least something pleasant. Especially since it's free and it does not get fat. 5. Stay together This is not about sex, it's about tenderness and love. Remember those nights that you could spend together, just lying in front of the TV, chatting, walking. In fact, these are priceless moments: you are both at home, you do not need to rush anywhere, you are not expected to party, where you are late, because the nurse was late. You are simply together.6. Eating normally First you have to diet because you are breastfeeding. Then many sin that they finish eating a porridge, vegetable mashed potatoes and other stuff, called a useful lure. And then we have to hide dainties for adults in the most incredible places, so that the child does not reach. Beautifully served dish? Slowly and with pleasure eaten dessert? Remember when you last saw it. And allow yourself again this little feast.7. Patience is enough to learn to cope with the stress of every mother. This is very difficult, when immense fatigue and routine are crushed on the head, threatening to crush the remnants of a fragile psyche. Try to just breathe: inhale ... exhale ... Deep breath ... Slow exhalation ... A grown up child is also good at teaching this cunning. And my husband at the same time. You look, cries and abuse in the house will be less.Photo: GettyImages8.Spend less time looking at the screenBe that as it may, we are constantly glued to social networks. And we send our children to watch cartoons. Or to poke their chubby fingers at the tablet screen. Both are not good for either mothers or children. You will still have time to scroll through your VKontakte feed. And your baby will never have a second childhood.9. Allow yourself to help “I myself” is a terrible mantra that for some reason was hammered into our heads under the guise of a woman’s greatest virtue. There is nothing worthy in trying to embrace the immensity, stumbling, falling and crying from helplessness. Surely there are people around you who are ready to help. Don’t worry, you are not burdening them too much. When it becomes too much, they will disappear in an instant. And while you have a mom, dad, husband, friends who are ready to go to the store or babysit, take advantage of this. 10. Summarize But not in order to scold yourself for unfulfilled promises. But in order to think: maybe there are not so many things that you really want to change? And you will probably have a whole list of wonderful new events and impressions that the outgoing year has brought you.