What should every mother promise in the New Year?

For those who have recently become a mother, weeks andmonths often merge into one endless day of marmot. Half-sleepless night, a half-baked breakfast, found in the evening on the table, frozen and bitter, like eternal fatigue, continuous cleaning, washing, there it is necessary to wipe, pick, shake, pet, change ... And, thank God, if a woman does not overtake postpartum depression and she has someone to call for help. Yes, this all needs to be changed. To begin with, to admit to yourself: you are not superwoman. You are a living person who is tired, who has run out of nerves and breaks down. And give yourself 10 promises, which must be fulfilled next year. To devote more time to yourself It is not important what you put into this concept. But your feelings and desires should not be in the last place after the needs of the child, husband, God knows who else. You also need time for yourself. And this is not selfishness. This is normal. Read a book, go to the pool, sit in a cafe with a friend, work out yoga. Yes, even to fall into bed with a magazine, a glass of wine and a donut. And forget about the feeling of guilt. All this is in the interests of your loved ones. Otherwise, they will lose you in the grief of bibs, diapers, bottles and dirty dishes.Photo: GettyImages2.Remember those beautiful nights filled with velvety darkness, ringing silence, eight hours of healthy sleep? No? It's time to remember. Yes, while you get up for night feedings, the downed mode is your faithful companion. But the older the children get, the more peacefully they sleep themselves. So you relax. Maybe it's time to wean the child from the parental bed? Just look in the mirror and ask your bags under your eyes what they think about it. Take a Shower Slowly I'm ashamed to say, but sometimes there is no time for that either. Dirty hair, always wet T-shirt stained with tears, snot, saliva, food, or something that someone has just vomited on it. Matching smell, unshaven legs, no sex. And how cool it would be to stand for forty minutes under the scalding jets of water. Or lie down in a bubble bath filled with rose petals and fragrant aromatic salt. Just close your eyes and pretend that there are no diapers in your life. Remember sex “Do what you want, just don’t wake up,” you mutter to your husband and turn your back on him. And this is understandable. But let's be clear: do you really not like sex? Allow yourself at least something pleasant. Moreover, it is free and does not get fat from it. 5. To be together This is no longer about sex, but rather about tenderness and love. Think of those nights that you could spend together, just lying in front of the TV, chatting, walking. In fact, these are priceless moments: you are both at home, you do not need to rush anywhere, you are not expected to a party where you are late because the nanny is late. You are just together 6. Eat normally At first you have to diet because you are breastfeeding. Then many sin by eating porridge, vegetable puree and other rubbish called useful complementary foods for the child. And then you have to hide the goodies for adults in the most incredible places so that the child does not reach. Nicely served dish? A leisurely and delightfully eaten dessert? Think back to the last time you saw this. And allow yourself this little holiday again. 7. GET PATIENCE Every mom needs to learn how to deal with stress. It is very difficult when immeasurable fatigue and routine press on the head, threatening to crush the remnants of a fragile psyche. Try to just breathe: inhale ... exhale ... Deep breath ... Exhale slowly ... It is also good to teach this trick to a grown-up child. And my husband at the same time. You see, there will be fewer screams and curses in the house.Photo: GettyImages8. Spend less time looking at the screen. Whatever it is, in social networks we are sticking properly. And we send children to watch cartoons. Or poke pudgy fingers in the tablet screen. Both that, and another is unhelpful both for mums, and for children. You will still have time to look through the "VKontakte" tape. And your baby's second childhood will never be. 9. Allowing yourself to help "I myself" is a terrible mantra, which for some reason we were hammered into the head under the guise of the greatest dignity of a woman. There is nothing worthy in trying to embrace the immensity, stumble, fall and sob from impotence. Certainly next to you there are people ready to help. Do not worry, you do not burden them too much. When it's too much, they instantly disappear. And while you have a mom, dad, husband, friends, ready to go to the store or sit with the baby, use this. Bring Togo Not for scolding yourself for unfulfilled promises. And in order to think: maybe there are not too many things that you really want to change? And for sure you will have a whole list of wonderful new events and impressions that the year brought you.