"There is no need to raise children"

Many parents think:lectured their child, checked their diary, scolded them for bad grades – that’s it, the upbringing was successful. But Milana Kerzhakova is sure that moralizing like “he must only get excellent grades” has nothing to do with upbringing and flies past the child’s ears with a whistle.A photo: @milana_kerzhakova “I think children do not need to be raised. "Nasty not to say, girls for bows do not tug" - banality. The postulates are much more belligerent, like: “one marriage and for the rest of my life,” “for theft — I will drive out of the house” and all other resulting Komsomol convictions of my youth come to nothing.

"They are looking at us"

Milana is confident:Children look at their parents and imitate them in everything. And if words differ from deeds, then any lectures will definitely be in vain. “And they look at us. At how we scream, locked in a room, sorting out relationships, at how we sit with a bottle of beer in front of the TV during another talk show, at our foul language, at the inability to control our emotions and aggression, at the lack of desire to develop - and these are the things that shape our little child. And not some kind of moralizing, school, environment - all this, of course, but to a lesser extent,” Milana is sure.

"A man is his family"

“I believe that 90% of a person is his family,”writes Kerzhakova. Bad or good, it is the manners and behavior of their parents that children copy. Of course, education and the parents' desire to realize themselves also play a role. And if parents want their child to become an interesting person, they should first of all become one themselves. Develop all their lives, become better, then the child will have such a need.Photo: @milana_kerzhakova

“Educate yourself, not children”

Parents should always remember:They are an example for children. And if the example is good, then the children will grow up to be worthy people. Therefore, it is worth starting education with yourself, looking at yourself from the outside, through the eyes of your child. And then "they will definitely and always thank you for having the opportunity to call you their parents with pride, as I proudly call mine." Education, as she understands it, for Milana "is the transformation of a little person into a thinking, bright head, into a person with his own aspirations, with a love for development and work. And for objective reasons, he cannot know a better example than his own parents. Hence my simple conclusion - parents, first of all, should educate themselves, and only then the child."

“There are exceptions”

Milana's followers on the social network as a wholesupport. But they also give other examples. “There are exceptions, I know several people from drinking families who, after looking at their parents, said: it won’t be like that in our family. And these are very educated people, professors, with wonderful families, loving their children and wives. And there are children of very famous people, where the parents are very good, hard-working. Daughters-in-law still love their mothers-in-law and communicate with them, and sons (even if they are 30-45 years old) are absolutely incapable of having normal families, because they can neither work nor support their families and still live on the money that their wealthy parents give them.”

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