How to raise a real man

A photo: Every woman wants her son to become a real man. But men are not born. More precisely, they are born, but it's not just a matter of gender, of course. A man needs to be raised. Elena Nikolaeva, medical psychologist:The boy won't grow up on his own.Parental care, which is expressed in satisfying physiological needs, will not make a worthy man out of him. As the boy grows up, he needs to be instilled with certain habits and skills, and the necessary knowledge. First of all, this should be done by the father. There is a standard set of male qualities that need to be nurtured in a child from childhood. Dad can explain, show by example, teach to be independent, responsible and decisive, and then the son will grow up to be a self-confident man, capable of showing his best side. Unlike mom, who can compromise with the child, dad needs to show firmness and persistence, without crossing the line. This way the son will learn to achieve his goal. A man should be independent. Teach the boy to dress himself, make his bed, hang up his clothes.A real man is not afraid to make decisions. By three years he can choose to go to a kindergarten in a shirt or T-shirt, and by six - decide to go swimming or gymnastics. It is important to teach the child to understand that he is responsible for his decisions. For example, if he chose a section on wrestling, then it should be explained that by the end of the year she will attend. The real man must be active. Sport is the basis of a healthy lifestyle. Walk in the park, roller-skate, go to theaters, museums, circus, let the child get used to being in motion all the time, then he will grow vigorous. It is important to develop a sense of responsibility in the son. For example, he can take care of domestic plants or a pet. The more mature a boy becomes, the more duties he can be entrusted. Teach your son that girls should never be offended, they need to give in, take care of them. Let the son help his mother in the measure of his children's strength. Do not say that you can do everything yourself, give your child a reason to be proud of yourself.A photo: firestock No matter how sad it may sound, but parents from generation to generation make the same mistakes in the education of their little men. Error number 1. Excessive severity in education. Many believe that boys need severity, they need more from them than from girls. But remember: he is still a child and no less than a girl, needs love, affection and attention. Errors № 2. Often you can see such a picture: adults shame the boy for the fact that they are crying. "As a girl!" But understand: boys also have such moments in their lives when they want to cry, to release all emotions outside. Instead of criticizing your child for it, it's better to hug and try to figure out what is the reason for the tears that have arisen. Error number 3. Hyperopeka. Most often it comes from mom, grandmother. Being adults, we seem to forget what they were like in childhood and how we wanted to run around in puddles, lie in the snow, climb onto a fence, and, in general, feel free and independent. And then - do not go there, do not do it, do not run, do not jump, sit here with your mother and babbling kulichiki! It is clear that if this attitude to the child, then this man from him does not work. Most likely, he will grow up a weak-willed person without a personal opinion. Error number 4. Boys only play with soldiers and cars! And if he really wants to play with the stroller and doll and among the girls? Parents are guarding the growing up of their little man and handing him a pistol. But in fact there is nothing wrong with the boy playing with the doll (in moderation, of course). So he still from a small age subconsciously formed a model of family behavior. Error number 5. Mom can and can. In today's world, a woman has taken too much on her shoulders. And she can score a nail, and change the wheel, and earn money. Mom nevertheless should leave all this for the daddy. In the mind of the baby from birth a model of the family is formed. If mom can do anything, then in the future, from his companion, he will expect the same. In the future, he will imitate his parents. Therefore, it is best if your son takes an example from the pope, strong and skilful. Error number 6. Mom tries to replace both parents. But since the age of 6, the boy begins to realize that he is a future man, therefore in everything he is ready to imitate his father or another male person who is close to him. Therefore, the son must have a man with whom he will contact at a male level: cars, sports, girls, after all. That is, dad, coach, teacher, relative.Photo: firestockError #7.A mother sees her child as the center of the Universe. Every woman wants to marry a real man, but she is ready to make an egoist out of her son. Often, mothers are inclined, due to their boundless love or long-awaitedness, to do whatever their son wants. "All children are like children, but mine is a genius." Such love can lead to the fact that when your son grows up, he will no longer need you, and he will not be interested in your problems and ailments. A smart mother should sometimes become helpless, allowing her son to show care and courage. The upbringing of a boy depends entirely on his parents, they should try to create all the favorable conditions and raise a real man who will be a worthy example for their children. Love your child, do not be afraid to tell him about it. It is important for boys to realize their important role in the family.