How to raise a real man

A photo: Every woman wants her son to become a real man. But men are not born. More precisely, they are born, but it's not just a matter of gender, of course. A man needs to be raised. Elena Nikolaeva, medical psychologist:The boy himself will not grow up. Parental care, which manifests itself in satisfying the physiological needs, worthy of a man from it will not do. As a boy grows up, he needs to instill certain habits and skills into him, and put in the necessary knowledge. First of all, it should be done by the father. There is a standard masculine set of qualities that must be educated in the baby from childhood. The pope can explain, show by his example, teach to be independent, responsible and determined, and then the son will grow self-confident man, able to prove himself from the best side. Unlike mother, who can compromise with the child, the father should show firmness and perseverance, without going beyond the limits of what is permissible. So the son will learn to achieve the goal. The man must be independent. Teach the boy to dress up himself, tidy up the bed, hang clothes on the place. A real man is not afraid to make decisions. By three years he can choose to go to a kindergarten in a shirt or T-shirt, and by six - decide to go swimming or gymnastics. It is important to teach the child to understand that he is responsible for his decisions. For example, if he chose a section on wrestling, then it should be explained that by the end of the year she will attend. The real man must be active. Sport is the basis of a healthy lifestyle. Walk in the park, roller-skate, go to theaters, museums, circus, let the child get used to being in motion all the time, then he will grow vigorous. It is important to develop a sense of responsibility in the son. For example, he can take care of domestic plants or a pet. The more mature a boy becomes, the more duties he can be entrusted. Teach your son that girls should never be offended, they need to give in, take care of them. Let the son help his mother in the measure of his children's strength. Do not say that you can do everything yourself, give your child a reason to be proud of yourself.Photo:firestock No matter how sad it may sound, but parents from generation to generation make the same mistakes in the upbringing of their little men. Mistake number 1. Excessive strictness in upbringing. Many people think that boys need harshness, they need to ask more than girls. But remember: he is still a child and no less than a girl needs love, affection and attention. Mistake number 2. You can often see the following picture: adults shame the boy for crying. "Like a girl!" But understand: boys also have moments in their lives when they want to cry, release all their emotions out. Instead of criticizing your child for this, it is better to hug and try to figure out what is the reason for the tears that have arisen. Mistake number 3. Hyperprotection. Most often it comes from mom, grandmother. As adults, we seem to forget what we were in childhood and how we ourselves wanted to run in puddles, lie in the snow, climb the fence, and in general, feel free and independent. And here - don't go there, then don't do, don't run, don't jump, sit here with your mother and make Easter cakes! It is clear that if you treat a child this way, then a real man will not work out of him. Most likely, he will grow up to be a weak-willed person without personal opinion. Mistake # 4. Boys only play with toy soldiers and toy cars! And if he really wants to play with a stroller and a doll among girls? Parents guard their little man's growing up and hand him a pistol. But there is nothing wrong when a boy plays with a doll (in moderation, of course). So, from an early age, he subconsciously forms a model of family behavior. Mistake No. 5. Mom can and can do anything. In the modern world, a woman has put too much on her shoulders. And she can hammer in a nail, and change the wheel, and earn money. Mom should still leave it all to Dad. A family model is formed in the baby's mind from birth. If mom can do everything, then in the future he will expect the same from his companion. In the future, he will imitate his parents. Therefore, it is best if your son follows the example of his father, who is strong and skillful. Mistake number 6. Mom tries to replace both parents. But from the age of 6, the boy begins to realize that he is a future man, therefore, in everything he is ready to imitate his father or another male person who is close to him. Therefore, the son must have a person with whom he will contact at the male level: cars, sports, girls, in the end. That is, dad, coach, teacher, relative.Photo: firestock Error # 7. Mom sees the child as the center of the universe. Every woman wants to marry a real man, and from her son is ready to make an egoist. Often, mothers tend to do whatever they want with their boundless love or long-awaited desire. "All children are like children, and mine is a genius." Such love can lead to the fact that the son, when he grows up, stops needing you, and your problems and sores will be uninteresting to him. A clever mother should sometimes become helpless, allowing her son to show concern and courage. The boy's education depends entirely on the parents, they must try to create all the favorable conditions and raise a real man who will be a worthy example for their children. Love your child, do not be afraid to tell him about this. It is important for boys to be aware of their important role in the family.