Psychological Features of Raising Girls - Expert

Feminism in modern society has long beenprofanity. Many interpret it as the desire of women to pull sleepers and walk with unshaven legs. And they do not remember at all that feminism is the movement of women for equal rights with men. The right to the same salary. The right not to hear comments such as "a woman at the wheel - like a monkey with a grenade." And even the replicas, implying that the car enthusiast on the car did not work for herself, but exchanged for some physiological services. It turns out that instead of equality we see quite another phenomenon - misogyny. That is, hatred of a woman simply because she is a woman. And the most terrible manifestation of it, according to psychologists, is inner misogyny. That is, the hatred of women for women. A huge problem, according to the psychotherapist Elena Tryakina, is that sexism, gender discrimination, is embedded in the minds of women and is broadcast by them from generation to generation. Mizoginia mum grafts her daughters. And so on ad infinitum.A photo: GettyImages "I remember when I first encountered this phenomenon. One of my clients told me that her friends, whose sons, began to aggressively and blame her daughter when her boyfriend committed suicide, "Elena Trjakina cites an example. A specialist with 20 years of experience admitted that she was simply amazed - she There were no separate demands for men and women: "All of them heard how the girl, in response to her roar, and the desire to tear off the head of the offender say:" You're a girl! You must be soft. Give in. " We do not recognize the girl's right to resentment, her own feelings. We do not teach it to express civilized anger and protest, but we teach sexism, "says Elena Tryakina. Such an educational tradition goes back to the patriarchal society. Then the man was the main, and the woman entirely depended on him. Now there is no basis for such a way - neither social, nor economic, nor household. There are no grounds, but "you are a girl" is. Girls are taught to be gentle, to yield, sacrifice in the behavior of girls and girls is considered the norm. "The girl is taught that the most important thing in their life is relations. Neither its success, education, self-realization, nor career, nor money matter. This is all the second time, "- the psychotherapist believes. The girl is certainly instructed to marry. Gathered in medical? Lost her mind? There are some girls, where will you find your husband? The responsibility for marriage is only on girls. It turns out that parents in their daughters see not a person, but a certain service potential - for some abstract man or for himself. This is about the notorious "glass of water".Photo:GettyImages“Marrying for convenience is not shameful, it’s good and even smart. Lack of love is the norm. Their brains are cold, which means it’s easier to manipulate a man,” Elena Tryakina describes the concept of upbringing. “It turns out that we are broadcasting the idea that a woman’s normal existence is parasitic, mercantile and dependent. The idea of learned helplessness and infantilism. When mom is beautiful and dad works. In fact, these are latent forms of prostitution, which are considered absolutely normal.” An independent, successful, earning woman is considered unhappy and unlucky if she is not married. Ridiculous? Ridiculous. “Women’s self-awareness needs to grow. That’s what is needed, not all these Vedic wives courses and other obscurantism,” the psychologist concludes. More than a quarter of a million people have watched Elena Tryakina’s work. A discussion has unfolded in the comments. Some said that there was no point in sowing thoughts of self-sufficiency in women's heads: "You need to take care of your children." But the overwhelming majority agreed with the psychologist. Because they immediately recognized the mechanisms of "you're girls" in their own upbringing. And what do you say?