Mistakes Parents Make When Raising Children - Current Recommendations
Raising a child is a complex process and itthe main goal is to prepare the baby for adult life. In modern society, independence and self-reliance are valued. And parents need to develop these qualities and direct them in the right direction. But to do this, you will have to gain authority with the baby. And it is important that it is built on kindness, openness, love and attention.
Problems of family education are solved through dialogue. Photo: Getty Incorrect models of family education:
- Tactics of suppression or dictatorship. If a child is punished for any misconduct, constantly prohibiting something, humiliating and hitting, it develops in the child cowardice, deceit and cruelty. He is afraid of his parents and tries not to contact them.
- Hyperopeka. In this case, the parents decide everything for the kids, do not give them the initiative, and control every step. People who grew up in such families are difficult in adulthood. After all, parents did not accustom them to independence and the ability to adapt to the world.
- Tactics of non-interference. If the kid is left to himself and he is not controlled by adults, he will get into an unpleasant situation.
Another wrong model of upbringing when the babybecomes the center of the universe. In adulthood, it is difficult for him to establish relationships with others. After all, he does not know how to adequately assess his strengths and weaknesses.
Problem solving
The current method of education is democracy,based on cooperation and trust between family members. Thanks to this model, it is easier for parents to find mutual understanding with their children, and conflicts rarely arise between them. Recommendations from psychologists:
- Do not undermine the authority of the second parent.
- Never find out the relationship with the baby.
- Do not start educational discussions if you are angry or irritated.
- Learn to negotiate with the baby and listen to his opinion.
- Become a child protection and support.
- Do not indulge in vagaries and punish for misconduct.
- Give time to the child, even if you are tired.
- Do not suppress the identity of the baby and give him the initiative.
- Become an example to follow.
To raise a strong and independent babypersonality, find the "golden mean" between love and severity. But if you can't improve your relationship, don't hesitate to contact a psychologist.
