If you have a child, then you know thatmaternal fatigue is a real hell. Dark circles under the eyes, shaking hands, there is no time and effort even to go to the shower. While you do not try on yourself, you will not understand, there is nothing to compare this state with. And when a young mother tries to complain about her condition, close to comatose, she is usually sympathetically responded: "You're just tired." After all, postpartum depression in our country, unfortunately, is considered to be a blah. One of these mothers, journalist Candice Ganger, is that if a woman complains, it means that she deserves serious attention. Do not dismiss it! And for clarity, Candice translated the phrase "You're just tired" in the language of a young mother. That's what they actually hear.
A photo: GettyImages "You look awful" It's clear that tired people do not look very nice. No, you do not help the young mother feel better, hinting that she should look more often in the mirror. Or, less likely to leave the house, so as not to frighten people. It does not matter that you did not mean it. Mom will hear just that. "You need a concealer that's better." My God, I really thought that I had just made up badly when I was told about fatigue. I did my best to look like a man who honestly sleeps laid eight hours a day. And I, it turns out, did not work! So, I need a concealer that is thicker to cover up those eerie circles under my eyes. "Can you feel something else?" You believe that everything that I feel is just because of fatigue. Headache? You're just tired. Bad mood? I'm tired, probably. Hair falling out? No, you're just tired. Nobody wanted to hear what I'm saying really. Any complaint is written off for fatigue. "You are the worst mother in the world" You tell me about my fatigue, but at the same time do not want to help me cope with cooking, cleaning, to give me a minute of rest? Then better be silent. I know perfectly well that all people get tired without exception. And if only I'm alone, then I'm not doing well in my duties. Besides, you do not think that I need help. So it's VERY bad for me. "" It's good that I'm not in your place. "It always seemed to me that people were frankly glad that they were spared a life full of fuss. They are even ready to regret me because I got such a fate. "How glad I am that my life has developed differently!" Rejoice in silence. I love my life no matter how tired I am.
Photo:GettyImages"You'll never get enough sleep again"Thank you, Captain Obvious. You know everything about me, my life, how much I sleep (or don't sleep). That's why you're pushing me closer to depression. Your stories about the stages of sleep don't make me feel better. Don't try to convince me that everything is fine, that everything is going as it should. You'll only make it worse. And I so lack positive emotions. "You're funny"No, you're all funny. Everyone who devalues my feelings just because I'm a mom. A child completely changes your life. But not your brain. Don't assume that all my feelings and emotions are due to lack of sleep. The conclusion? It's simple. Young mothers really do need help. They need support. And more than the words "you're just tired." And words at all. You need to listen to your mother at least once. Take her seriously. And help. With action.
