Why do moms have anger at the baby?

Irritation for a beloved child is normalthe state of the mother, which constantly suppresses her natural feelings. She is tired of night awakenings, which affects the feelings for the creature, which prevents sleep. Panic fear for the baby, who can at any time eat a button or pinch a finger, often pours out into a malicious cry.To restrain anger - do not save it for a long time, hewill not be so devastating. Photo: Getty What happens when a baby grows up, and communication with him turns into torture? He touches the most sick strings of the soul, deftly manipulating the weaknesses of his parents. It's not a bad thing: the child takes from you all the good features that you are aware of and bad, hidden from you. You see in the little man the hated traits of the spouse, and the teenager demonstrates your weaknesses. Without realizing this, you gave your child his pain, received from his parents, which reflects to you a teenager. Your child does not want you evil, although sometimes "playing on your nerves." A psychologist can work with this.

How to contain aggression: advice of a psychologist

There are many ways to regain oneself in a relativelyquiet state, so as not to regret the consequences. First of all, accustom yourself not to accumulate anger. Try to immediately explain to the child those feelings that cause his action. Expressing dissatisfaction, talk about a specific situation, not giving negative characteristics to the most guilty: "I'm dissatisfied with the fact that you scatter toys, I'm angry with you because the room is dirty" instead of: "You grow slovenly, your place on garbage dump. " If your condition is such that it is impossible to say an adequate phrase, wait a few minutes and do one of the exercises:

• count in your mind up to 50 and back;
• concentrate on your breathing by tracking your breath and exhaling for a few minutes.

A breath or an invoice will help you return toan adequate state in which you "do not break wood." Another way - "look at the anger from the side." This will not happen immediately, but you can practice in less annoying situations. You wait for the bus, and you get irritated, look at it as an outside observer. How cleverly your anger is manipulated by you, hiding behind "just indignation". His child always irritates more than someone else's. Do not save the irritation, but try to convey your feelings to the offender, without going over to the person. Look at your anger from the side, be the mistress of the situation.

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