How a woman's life changes with the advent of a child: real stories

Maria Kozhevnikova: I do not go on about the children's whims

A photo: Valeria Mikheenko I have a completely different, new life. It used to be always: “I, I, I”, and now: “Children, children, children”. At first I think about what sons need, and only then I remember my needs. Before their birth, I was desperate, not afraid to take risks, but now every time I wonder what it might lead to. After all, I am responsible not only for myself, but also for the kids. So I have to stop my “want.” I stopped going to social events. And this is not because of pregnancy and childbirth, I just outgrown parties, interest in them disappeared. After all, they come there to smile, take pictures, show that you are among those invited. And I do not want to spend time on it. What for? I'd rather spend it with my relatives. By the way, our relations with Zhenya, my husband, also changed: we became closer to each other, something appeared for which a woman and a man create a family - children. Senior Vanya used to be a copy of his father. I hoped that he would be at least a little like me, but no. The cut of the eyes, the features of the face, the smile, the way he laughs, is poured out by Zhenya. But now outgrown. And Maxim was born - a copy of the father. My husband likes to mess with the children. Can easily change the diaper to the younger Maxim, feed. He does it in pleasure, although we immediately agreed that it was not his direct responsibility, but mine. But, on the other hand, I am calm that Zhenya can always replace me. We have no babysitter. When I'm at work, my or Zhenya's mother is left with Vanya.1/2Photo: Persona StarsPhoto:"Instagram" by Maria Kozhevnikova Small children are very sensitive to the weakness of their parents, you need to understand this. For example, Vanechka loves to eat very much and sometimes starts to be capricious ahead of time. People around him say: "Well, feed him, why are you making fun of the child?", but I try to stick to the schedule so that my son does not start manipulating. If the child starts crying, I immediately start reading him fairy tales, singing - I do everything to distract him and hold out until the time he is supposed to. Otherwise, the child will understand the principle and will control you with tears. And this is wrong - you can't give in to children's whims. I am sure of this, and my husband also supports me. Although we really want to spoil our sons. But since we decided, it means we can't.