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Mantra No. 1. I am the best parent for my child.
When a child cries, is capricious oris acting up, we start to doubt ourselves: “My friend never yells at her son, but I snapped at mine for the second time in a month. Maybe being a mother is not for me?” The feeling of guilt and failure gnaws at us again and again… Stop! Put all doubts aside and understand: you and your child were given to each other for a reason. It is you who can teach him the most important things, and he, in turn, will help you open your eyes to many things. Therefore, you are the best parent for your baby or teenager, and he is the best child for you.
Mantra No. 2. Crying is a way of communicating with me
There is nothing more terrible than the crying of a child whoyou can't stop. And if it's night outside and you're terribly sleepy, and the baby hasn't been able to calm down for half an hour... It seems like he just wants to torment you! In fact, the baby is talking to you with crying. Telling you that he really needs you. Complaining about some problems. He just doesn't know how to do it any other way yet. But he will learn gradually.
Mantra No. 3. My child is just a child
We often get angry with our children if theytalk with their mouths full, make a huge mess in the room, or repeat the same thing over and over. But remember: you are not living with mini-adults. Let your children be children.
Let them be children, because they grow up so fast! Photo: Getty Images
Mantra No. 4. Before I react to something, I take a pause
The rhythm of modern life is such that we are constantlyWe run forward. There is a catastrophic lack of time to stop and relax. And now we are scolding our child in a hurry for spilled tea, scattered toys or lost mittens... However, before making claims, think for a minute why your beloved child did this. Your son could have scattered toys when he was looking for a certain car. This is important to him! Spilled tea - when he ran to the scream of his little sister. And gave the mittens to a frozen friend, and then forgot to take them back. A couple of sighs - and you will be able to look differently at what seems like pure hooliganism. At the very least, this will help you come to your senses and not break into a scream.
Mantra No. 5. Taking care of yourself is normal
It's not about abandoning your son or daughter.grandparents, and have fun with friends at the club every day. But you can't forget about your own needs. This is especially true for women, who tend to blame themselves if they don't devote 100 percent of their time to their child. But a baby will do just fine sitting with his father while you take a shower or relax in a bubble bath. And an older child doesn't necessarily have to sleep in the same room with his parents - the night should be their personal time. Set aside time for yourself, this will not make you a bad mother or father. On the contrary, giving yourself at least a minimal break (for example, to drink a cup of coffee), you will then be able to take care of your child with renewed energy.
Mantra No. 6. "Children do not distract from more important work. They are the most important work "
This Clive Lewis quote is worth remembering for everyoneParents. Raising a child requires a lot of time and effort, because it depends on us what kind of person he or she will grow up to be. Remind yourself of this when your daughter runs in for a hug, preventing you from finishing a project. And don’t be sorry if you have to push aside a pile of unironed laundry for the sake of playing with your son.
