From which wives and why do men leave?
Psychologists have identified the reasons that make a manthink about divorce. Some reasons may be only on a domestic level, others may concern relationships on a higher level. But all together they can be fatal.
Cheating wife
Even if the culprit repents of his actions andswears not to do this, trust in him is lost forever, replaced by jealousy, resentment, constant suspicions. Will a loving man leave in such a situation? Most likely, over time, the family will fall apart, because, justifying and even forgiving betrayal, it is impossible to forget what happened.A man leaves his wife: the reasonsPhoto: Getty
Sexual dissatisfaction
Sex is an important part of a relationship.If the spouses do not match in temperament and preferences, over time the husband will pay attention to other women who are ready to give him what he so passionately desires, but does not receive from his wife. In the family, a man can be kept by love, tender feelings for his wife and children, a sense of duty until his mistress shows activity and makes him take a decisive step.
Negative situation in the family
Constant quarrels and scandals, demands andcomplaints will drive anyone crazy. Even the most patient husband will one day decide that he has had enough and will leave, slamming the door, the woman's fault in this situation is not obvious. The main complaints are lack of money and lack of attention, and the culprit is a man who has not coped with the role of the main breadwinner in the family and an attentive husband. Often the reason for scandals lies deeper and lies in sexual dissatisfaction, but women intuitively look for other reasons to express dissatisfaction. As a result, from his wife, tired of pressure, accusations, screaming and tears. He seeks silence, peace and understanding and finds it in a relationship with another.
Lack of attention
Few women know that menattention and care are no less necessary than they are. No matter how strong he is, he wants to feel loved and needed, he lacks tenderness and tender relationships. Care at the everyday level is not enough. Ironed shirts and a delicious dinner will not replace affection, hugs and declarations of love. How often women expect this from a man, without trying to give the same in return.
The wife's unkempt appearance
The man spends a lot of time at worksurrounded by well-groomed and stylish women. When he comes home, he sees his overweight wife, exhausted by everyday life, in an old tracksuit or dressing gown, with an awkward bun or ponytail, who has forgotten what a manicure, makeup and heels are. Watching this day after day, any man will leave for his ex or have an affair on the side. A woman who is forced to stay at home with a child and run a household finds excuses for herself. She does not have enough time for herself, she does not have money for beauty salons and fitness, she has no one to dress up for, because her husband does not pay attention to her and does not take her out. By doing this, the wife closes a vicious circle, not realizing that she is provoking her husband's betrayal and leaving home.
The wife's inability to cook and create coziness
This is one of the rare reasons for a husband leaving the family.If his wife suits him in all other respects, he can put up with the mess and eat semi-finished products for a long time. He will find a compromise and spend more time outside the home, eat at his mother’s, in a restaurant, or start cooking and cleaning himself. But this does not mean that the problem has disappeared. If difficulties arise in other areas of married life, it will remind of itself and will become the last straw. The result is that the man leaves for his ex-wife, mother, or new lover. It is worth mentioning other, slightly less common reasons for a husband leaving: - the high status of the wife and the size of her salary in comparison with the position of her husband; - regular whining, tears, and complaints about life; - invasion of personal space, prohibitions on meeting with friends and hobbies; - disdainful attitude and comparison with other men; - discussion with girlfriends and parents of the details of family and intimate life.The man went to the former: situation analysisPhoto: Getty
Why does a man leave his wife? We draw a conclusion!
So, it is safe to say that lovinga man will not leave his family if he and his wife have a wonderful relationship, they suit and satisfy each other in bed, there are no lies, betrayals and infidelities in their lives, they have honest, trusting and tender relationships. It is important to understand that men leave for their exes or seek to create a new family only when the situation seems hopeless to them. They no longer believe that everything will change, peace and quiet will come to the house, and the wife will become different. Often in such cases, the catalyst for the breakdown of the family is the active actions of another woman. But no matter how much we blame the homewrecker, the responsibility for the husband leaving the family lies with the wife.
What should I do if my husband does not go to another?
Every woman needs to stay attractiveand interesting for the husband. This means that it is important to take care of yourself, be active in sex, not to provoke quarrels and scandals. It is better to share a bad mood and personal problems with friends and parents, and not with your husband. But you should not discuss family life with them. Leave your husband personal space or become his friend, sharing hobbies and interests. If the relationship is deteriorating and the husband has cooled off, urgently look for the cause of the discord. Do not doubt, this is not a midlife crisis, not a young attractive employee or problems at work, the reason is in you and she is nearby, at home. When wondering why men leave and how to prevent this, look in the mirror, analyze your behavior and relationships in the family over the past years or months. It is much easier to prevent problems or eliminate them at the initial stage. Show sensitivity and attention, but do not become suspicious. The only thing that can help you fix the situation and get your relationship back on track is a calm, honest and frank conversation with your spouse, not a scandal. Talk to each other more often, don’t withdraw into yourself, make it a rule to look for solutions to problems together, without bringing them to a critical point. Remember: you are one and must act together. It is also useful to know: