Larisa Surkova: Dad needs a baby even before birth

Father and daughter

Photo:GettyImagesThe bond between a child and a father is formed in early childhood. In order for the little girl to feel needed and the best from the cradle, the father must: - Love his daughter's mother. And constantly demonstrate this with appropriate signs of attention: give gifts to his wife, give her compliments, help with household issues, look after and care for her. Then the grown-up girl will look for just such a positive hero as a companion. - Give compliments to his daughter: "This color of the dress suits you very well, it brings out your blue eyes" or "You quickly grasp new information, this is great." This will help your daughter grow up confident in her own strengths and attractiveness. - Refrain from punishment. Never hit or yell at the girl, this will definitely come back to haunt her with problems in relationships with men in adulthood. - Be her protector in any situation and at any age. - Allow her to be herself. If she likes playing football instead of dolls, that's great; if she likes jumping on a trampoline instead of drawing, that's great. Don't fuss over her, protecting her like a porcelain figurine, don't limit her natural activity just because "girls don't behave that way."

Dad and son

Photo: Getty.com Heard this saying: "I was born a boy, but did not become a man?" So this is about what actions worthy of a real man and a man's character can be brought up only by his own positive example. A dad must: - Respect the family and others - Be able to pacify your anger and make only constructive remarks. - Be firm in your decisions, fair and friendly towards your son .- Find time for games, a joint hobby and calm conversations .- Despite everything, believe in your own th child and always take his side in conflict situations. - To teach the son not to be afraid of making mistakes, to defend his opinion and to bear responsibility for it. - To allow the boy himself to make a choice, this will help the development of the child's independence. - Connect the son to his studies: do repairs, repair the car, change the crane, etc.- To organize competitions: who will twist more geeks in five minutes, who will win the game in checkers, who will press more often, whose goals will get fewer balls, whose knot will be stronger. The child will be pleased to win one day from the pope, it will greatly enhance his self-esteem. - Allow the son to show emotions. Do not scold him for tears and anger. Just teach him to control his emotions in his example.A photo: GettyImagesThe formation of the self-esteem in the child is influenced more by the position of the father than the rest, since he spends less time with his mother than with him, so the evaluation of the child's actions is more significant. Also striking is the fact that children, whose development father played an active role, grow more intelligent and successful compared to their peers from single-parent families. The important role of the father in raising children was told by Larisa Surkova, counseling psychologist, mother of five children and author psychological bestsellers:In psychology, a father is self-confidence forchild, his support and safety. A child needs a father even before birth. The rest of the time, he is a role model. The father creates the image of a man, and the child accepts it. Therefore, every father is responsible for who his son will look like and what kind of husband his daughter will look for. Children do not need parents 24 hours a day. 30 minutes a day of heart-to-heart talk, hugs and effectively spent weekends are enough, and years later your child will definitely thank you for it.