A letter with similar sentences addressed toFormer Star of House-2 Elena Berkova and her colleague on adult cinema Angelina Doroshenkova wrote the chair of the department for education. . Yes, and with the disclosure of libido, as they say, there are also problems ... Children grow up closed and do not know how to liberate themselves sexually. These topics were touched upon by Lena and Angelina in their educational program, which they stated in a letter to the official. and you need to own all the information from a dead end, ”said Berkova. Agree that the topic of sex education is quite subtle, to unequivocally condemn or welcome the idea of Berkova and Doroshenkova. mouths
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Opinion sexologist
We need to talk.But in the family, not at school— I believe that sex lessons in schools are not needed, because introducing children to the basics of personal relationships between women and men is the business of the family, not the school, says sexologist Pavel Maev. — If some parents are at a loss for words, then perhaps it makes sense for them to attend optional trainings or courses on this topic. Children actually already know everything. We knew, but now with the Internet... There are no restrictions on access to information, no matter how much we would like to. And the girls who came up with the initiative to introduce such a training program simply decided that they had been forgotten. Any actress, when they become obsolete (especially actresses with a narrow specialization), panics, they need fame, honor and respect. Berkova and Doroshenkova lack this, and for self-promotion they can offer nothing but the topic of sex.
Opinion of the psychologist
We need to talk. But not about sex, but about relationships.
- Sex should not stand out in a separate arealife, otherwise adolescents will begin to perceive it as a self-sufficient unit, separate from the relationship of a man and a woman, - says psychologist, candidate of sociological sciences Anette Orlova. - In the school curriculum, you can add not lessons about sex, but lessons about the relationship between the sexes. That is, teaching adolescents what love is, how to increase self-esteem, find contact with other people, build relationships. And within the framework of such lessons one can make one or two, which will be devoted to sexual relations - their safety, unwanted pregnancy issues, sexually transmitted diseases. But before you start such a program, you need to conduct numerous studies, it is not done once or twice at will.
- Telling about such things should be teenagea psychologist who has undergone special training on this topic, and not girls who consider themselves to be a pro in these matters. And in two different groups, that is, separately with the boys and separately with the girls. So that the young men would not laugh, and the future women would not be shy, and no one would shut up.
- Here you can not help but harm. When a person has no sexual experience yet and he is in the process of forming his sexual identity, such sex lessons with stories about his types and types are a gross violation of personal boundaries. And imposing this kind of “enlightenment” on a maturing person, we can not help him to open up, as Berkova and her friend claim, but to start the process of forming any kind of deviations, which will further adversely affect sexual life.
Practical advice: how to talk with your child about IT
— At about 9 years old, girls beginbe interested in sex life, and boys mature later - by the age of 12. Of course, the father should talk to the boy, and the mother to the girl. In the case of single-parent families, mothers will have to take on the father's function or, if the woman is not alone, ask her friend to help. In addition, there is specialized literature, websites, the main thing is to choose them correctly, - advises Pavel Maev. - Let's face it: the institution of marriage is now bursting at the seams. First of all, importance is attached to the relationship between a man and a woman, and not a husband and wife. Hence the question: "Why give birth?" Mechanical sex and relationships between the sexes are different things. Any sexual education at school, among other things, is dangerous because a young person of either sex begins to think that now he understands the topic, of course, he does not think about family, because the age is not right. This ease of perception of sex leads to the fact that a person grows up unprepared for family relationships. Since the family is in question, then the birth of a child and all demography... Do you talk about sex with your children?
- Yes, openly. Let him better ask me all the questions of interest.
- As a child, no one explained to me the details, I think this is an area where the child should get used to himself
- I would like to, but I do not know how to talk about it.
- I sent my child to see a psychologist - I can't explain it better than him
- I try, but the child refuses to communicate on this topic.
- I'll write my own version in the comments
Voted: 135A you talk about sex with children?
- Yes, openly. Let him better ask me all the questions of interest36.3%
- In childhood, no one explained the details to me, I think this is an area where a child should get used to himself25.2%
- I would like to, but I don’t know how to talk about it19.3%
- I sent my child to see a psychologist - I can't explain it better than him0.7%
- I try, but the child refuses to communicate on this topic8.1%
- I will write my version in the comments10.4%
Voted: 135
