The beginning of family life will require a lot of patience and the ability to find compromises. Photo: Getty
The beginning of a joint life: the difficulties of the first year
As statistics show, 40% of all divorcesis committed in the first 2-3 years of living together. Traditionally, the main cause of conflicts between young spouses is called household problems. This is only partly true. Agree, it seems strange that loving each other people can seriously quarrel because of uninhabited debris or unprepared dinner. Perhaps they just do not know how to start a family life. The everyday difficulties are just an excuse. The main reason for the conflicts of budding spouses is the mismatch of mutual demands and expectations. Young people could meet for a long time and be the happiest couple in the world until they got married and changed their social roles. And the girl is no longer just a gentle lover, but a wife with a certain range of responsibilities, and her "beautiful prince" is the husband who must take care of the family. Every social role has its own stereotype of behavior, its rights and responsibilities. Do they know about this young people? They know, of course, because they grew up in families, so they often unknowingly copy stereotypes of their parents' behavior. But newlyweds have grown up in different families, and they have different ideas about the social roles of "husband" and "wife". Therefore, the real behavior and expectations of their partners often do not coincide. For example, if the father of a young person does not take part in household chores, then the guy, most likely, himself will not come to mind to take out the garbage or wash the dishes. A girl does not like to cook, most often because her mother is a very uneventful cook. What can I do to avoid conflicts?
How to start a family life? Photo: Getty
How to start a family life
First of all, we must remember that the problems,arising at the beginning of the joint path, objective. That is, they are not reduced to the bad character of the partner and bad habits. He is so brought up, and the process of re-education is not only long, but also requiring great patience. In general, "patience" is a key word that in many ways determines the essence of family life. A few simple tips will help you cope with the difficulties of the first stage of coexistence.
As you can see, there are not so many rules. The main thing in family life, especially at its very beginning - respect for your beloved person, tolerance for its shortcomings (because you yourself chose it) and the desire to build a strong family. Also interesting:
