The beginning of family life will require a lot of patience and the ability to find compromises. Photo: Getty
The beginning of a joint life: the difficulties of the first year
As statistics show, 40% of all divorcesoccurs in the first 2-3 years of marriage. Traditionally, the main reason for conflicts between young spouses is called domestic problems. This is only partly true. Agree, it seems strange that people who love each other can seriously quarrel over untaken garbage or uncooked dinner. Perhaps they just do not know how to start family life. Domestic difficulties are just a pretext. The main reason for conflicts between new spouses is the mismatch of mutual demands and expectations. Young people could date for a long time and be the happiest couple in the world until they got married and changed their social roles. And the girl is no longer just a tender lover, but a wife with a certain range of responsibilities, and her "handsome prince" is a husband who must take care of the family. Each social role has its own behavioral stereotype, its rights and responsibilities. Do young people know about this? Of course they know, because they grew up in families, so they often unconsciously copy the behavioral stereotypes of their parents. But the newlyweds grew up in different families, and their ideas about the social roles of "husband" and "wife" are different. Therefore, the actual behavior and expectations of their partners often do not coincide. For example, if the young man's father does not take part in household chores, then the guy most likely will not think of taking out the trash or washing the dishes himself. And the girl does not like to cook, most often because her mother is not a good cook. What can be done to avoid conflicts?
How to start a family life? Photo: Getty
How to start a family life
First of all, it is important to remember that the problems,that arise at the beginning of a joint journey, objective. That is, they are not limited to the partner's bad character and bad habits. He was brought up that way, and the process of re-education is not only long, but also requires a lot of patience. In general, "patience" is a key word that largely determines the essence of family life. A few simple tips will help you cope with the difficulties of the first stage of coexistence.
As you can see, there are not so many rules.The most important thing in family life, especially at the very beginning, is respect for your loved one, tolerance for his shortcomings (after all, you chose him yourself) and the desire to build a strong family. Also interesting:
