Each child has his own character, and mothersone has to be creative in trying to convince him that he has to do what his parents tell him to do. Often, children answer “no” to everything, and specifically all do the opposite. Given this childish feature, we bring to your attention a few tricks that will help to achieve listening to without tears and scandals.
1.Forget the expression "Don't do that!" Instead of constantly jerking and prohibiting, offer your child another option. For example, instead of "Don't talk with your mouth full!" - "Tell me when you've chewed. Then I'll be able to understand what you want to tell me." Or: "Don't eat dry food!" - "Help me set the table, and we'll have some tea and cookies together!" Sometimes you can challenge your child. For example, if he fusses for a long time and can't get dressed, tell him: "I bet I can get dressed faster than you." 2. Change the instructions "Enough!", "Stop it!" to "Continue." This trick will help if you cannot think of another activity for the child (see point 1). In this case, make the child's activity harmless. Use this technique if you cannot think of an alternative to the child's actions. For example: instead of "Stop drawing on the walls!" – “Here’s a piece of paper, draw here.” 3. Don’t impose, but give a choice. Very often, when parents tell their child that it’s time for dinner or to go to bed, children begin to protest and disobey. If you have the same situation, then don’t tell your child what to do, offer him a choice. For example, instead of “It’s time for dinner. Sit down at the table!” – “Are you going to sit next to me or next to dad today?” Instead of “It’s time to go to bed” – “Which fairy tale should I read you before bed – about Thumbelina or the Three Little Pigs”? By offering a choice, you give him a sense of involvement. The child understands that his desires and needs are respected and taken into account. 4. Motivate. If the child understands what this action will give him, he will perform it with greater interest. For example, instead of “Put away the toys!” – “Put the toys off the floor, and we can dance together.” Instead of “Do your homework!” – “If you finish your homework quickly, you can go for a bike ride with your friends” (go for ice cream/go to the cinema together, etc.). 5. Use body and eye contact. In situations where the child ignores you, approach him so that your faces are at the same level, sit down or pick him up. This will demonstrate to the child your readiness to enter his world. Establish eye contact and explain what he needs to do and why. If the child cannot tear himself away from something, look at what he is doing and help him finish what he started (be it putting away dolls or parking a car park). If you feel a confrontational situation while standing opposite your child, move over and take a side position, breaking eye contact. The thing is that a side-by-side position is interpreted as an equal relationship. But face to face is either a close connection or a confrontation. And one more thing. Be sure to praise your children. But not just “good boy.” Notice how your child’s actions lead to good results. Did your child put away his toys? Say, “What a clean room!” (result). “You put all your toys away!” (action). “Good boy!”
