We will show you how to recognize children's fear and defeat it.Photo: Getty Images

First Fear

The baby begins to fear in the womb. The nervous shocks, anxiety and anxiety of the pregnant woman through the umbilical cord and the placenta are transmitted to the baby. Remember, the calmer and more peaceful you will behave while you are carrying the baby, the more beneficial it will be for the future psychological state of the crumbs. Also, the stressful course of pregnancy and childbirth can affect a child's predisposition to fears.

The main thing - my mother is near

For a harmonious and comfortable developmentThe newborn must be well-groomed, fed and clean. But, of course, this is not enough for a quiet mental state of the baby. A caring, cozy mother near - that's what first of all protects the baby from a sense of danger and anxiety.

Who are you, stranger?

A photo: Getty ImagesMore than a year, children may have their first conscious fear. Usually it occurs in front of strangers. New people, different from their mother and father, can bring the child to tears. To get acquainted with a previously unknown kid the person was painless, it is better to do this without letting the baby out of the hands. After all, it is the mother who is the guarantor of security in front of such an interesting and vast world. Try to show the kid that his new friend is not at all dangerous: in front of an agitated kid you can hug or kiss him.

Ah, it hurts! Ah, I'm afraid!

After a year, children begin to fear pain, especiallyoften this happens after a visit to a clinic or hospital. Injections, inoculations, unpleasant medical procedures will not please many people, especially unfettered children's psyche. Therefore, when you and the baby once again go to donate blood, tell him a story about a mosquito that will inject him a little. If, nevertheless, you fell into a stupor when you heard the cry of your beloved, call for help from the medical staff - they usually have a million ways how to calm the child.

Monster under the bed!

Photo:Getty Images: A fear of the dark and sleep alone can begin to attack over a period of one to three years. And there is nothing reprehensible in this. Even an adult often feels uncomfortable in an unlit place, to be sure about a child for whom darkness is unknown, danger, unpredictability. Buy a baby night light for your baby, lie down next to him, sing a lullaby or read a fairy tale - so he will fall asleep more calmly. You can come up with a baby night substitute mom in the form of a new toy that will protect children's sleep. A little later, the fear of fairy-tale characters is added to this fear. Monsters, ghosts and scary cartoon characters will certainly crawl out from under the bed and take the child into their creepy world. In this situation, it is certainly important to filter the information that the child receives during the day. Be attentive to the selection of cartoons and fairy tales. Very often, the fear of a fictional character is provoked by the parents themselves, starting to intimidate the child with Baba Yaga or something like that. Do not aggravate the situation, try not to shake the psyche of your children with fabricated fears. And, in general, while the baby has not yet learned to identify as fear, it is better not to use the words "fear", "fear", "frighten" with it, thereby you will only warm up in dumb desire to be afraid.

How to save the baby from fears

Talking with the child about fears is worth startingafter three years, when he can clearly explain to you what scares him. Speak the situation, share with your baby your childish fears and together drive him away. Game methods to cope with fear a lot. You can draw it, dazzle it, burn it, after describing it on paper, even send it far, far away, putting it on the boat and letting down the stream. You can think of anything, the main thing is that the kid sincerely believes that he said goodbye to fear for ever. Every child goes through age-related fears, and a warm comfortable family atmosphere is the most effective method to cope with them and help the child become self-confident, successful and self-sufficient person.

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