How to be a confident mom: tips for parenting

Photo: Gettyimages But everything is fixable. It's enough to breathe deeply, pull yourself together and believe in yourself. And something else. Behave like a professional. To be more self-confident, just be more self-confident. And still calm and happy. Initially, all the manipulations with the processing of the navel, changing the diaper, dressing and undressing the baby cause a shiver in the hands. But believe me, very soon you will be able to cope with all this blindfolded (well, almost) .2. Stop listening to other people's advice. It's clear, mother, mother-in-law, grandmother, aunt have already raised their children, so they consider themselves experts in educational matters. Prepare yourself: from the first day of discharge from the hospital, and perhaps even earlier you will be under the constant pressure of the older generation, the degree of it depends on the authority of the family member. At first you will all do it awkwardly, but it's normal! All or almost all girls are born with a maternal instinct, but none is born with experience, you will gain it over time, and quickly enough. Therefore it makes sense to limit visits of relatives, let them not crowd in your house and do not fall asleep with advice. Photo: Gettyimages3. Stop considering yourself a bad mom. All children fall, and it is always terrible, whether they are 2 months or 13 years old. But, as my grandmother said, through the fall the children grow. It is vital for them to stuff their own cones. If you have not locked the child in a sun-warming car and left without food for two days, move the guilt to the side. You can not spread straw everywhere, you can not foresee all dangerous situations, but you can protect the surrounding space as much as possible. Get rid of the audience. Sometimes, to calm a crying child, you need to stay with him alone. Too many people, endless games and squeezing excite the baby, and it's hard for him to calm down himself. Unfortunately, there are more advisers among people than capable of understanding, especially among relatives. Go into the bathroom, close it there with the child, turn on the water or the fan - a source of monotonous noise can help calm the crybaby. Photo: Gettyimages5. Become decisive. This means that it's time to stop doubting. Do not try - do not know, right? Try to hear the inner voice, the maternal instinct and built something more on intuitive decision-making. By myself I know, when the baby and a thousand cases are on hand at the same time, unexpectedly there is dexterity, speed of reactions, and at the same time the speed of thought increases. You seem to foresee the result and consequences of certain actions, both your own and the child. This alone makes you feel super.Photo: Gettyimages6. Take notes. Even supermachs sometimes need help and safety. For example, prepare in advance to visit the pediatrician - write down what you are worried about in the behavior and health of the child, then in the doctor's office you will not lose your head. Even if you just prepared a speech outside the door, a stressful situation, which is a doctor's appointment, can provoke sudden amnesia. To a hundred times not to return and not ask the same thing, write down the questions before each visit to the pediatrician and the doctor's instructions while you are at the reception. Photo: Gettyimages7. Do not hide your emotions. Paradoxically, this is so: it is not useful for a child to see only a smiling mother. Mom - a living person, she may be sad, scared, she may be upset or discouraged. The main thing is how Mom copes with these emotions. Because, no matter how we want, everything does not happen and it's always wonderful, and it's important for the child to understand this. Let's define your emotions, say to the kid aloud: "I was so sad, but now I'm better", "It offends me, please do not do it." If you explain your reactions, you will help the child understand his own emotions and feelings, teach him how to cope with them. Do not compare your child with other children. I beg you, do not give in to this race. "How, are you three years old, and you have not read it yet?" And we are already in French! "Forget the phrases like" Here Sonya is a fine fellow, he always removes his toys, but you are not. " You gave birth to a child to love, so love the way it is! Each child is unique and unique, and yours too! And do not let the mothers in the sandbox chastise your child, always be on his side. He is the best, because yours.Photo: Gettyimages9. Take time for yourself. Favorite "song" of most newly mummies - "I do not have time for myself, everything takes away the child." Honestly, not all of it. You do not have to make up your hair every day, but you can relax for 20 minutes in a bath. Or once a week to arrange a day of beauty. Here it is useful to remember about relatives and grandmothers, let them give you a break and thus show their concern. Nothing so does not raise a woman's self-esteem, as a beautiful, well-groomed reflection in the mirror. Be happy together. And yet, despite all the difficulties, this is the most beautiful time and fortune - to be a mother. Enjoy it with the baby, rejoice at his smiles and successes, show him the world, in a word, be happy!