How to be a confident mom: tips for parenting

Photo: GettyimagesBut everything can be fixed.It is enough to take a deep breath, pull yourself together and believe in yourself. And one more thing. 1. Behave like a professional. To be more self-confident, just be more self-confident. And also calm and happy. At first, all manipulations with handling the navel, changing a diaper, dressing and undressing the baby cause trembling in your hands. But believe me, very soon you will cope with all this blindfolded (well, almost). 2. Stop listening to other people's advice. It is clear that mom, mother-in-law, grandmother, aunt have already raised their children, so they consider themselves experts in parenting. Get ready: from the first day of discharge from the maternity hospital, and maybe earlier, you will be under constant pressure from the older generation, the degree of which depends on the authority of the family member. At first, you will do everything ineptly, but this is normal! All or almost all girls are born with maternal instinct, but none are born with experience, you will acquire it over time, and quite quickly. Therefore, it makes sense to limit visits from relatives, let them not crowd your house and bombard you with advice.Photo: Gettyimages3.Stop feeling like a bad mom. All children fall, and it’s always terrible, whether they are 2 months old or 13 years old. But, as my grandmother used to say, children grow through falls. They need to learn their own mistakes. Unless you locked your child in a car warming up in the sun or left him without food for two days, put the guilt aside. You can’t lay down straw everywhere, you can’t predict all dangerous situations, but you can make the environment as safe as possible for your child. 4. Get rid of the audience. Sometimes, in order to calm a crying child, you need to be alone with him. Too many people, endless games and cuddling excite the baby, and it’s difficult for him to calm down on his own. Unfortunately, there are more advisers among people than people who can understand, especially among relatives. Go to the bathroom, lock yourself in there with your child, turn on the water or a fan - a source of monotonous noise can help calm the crybaby.Photo: Gettyimages5. Become decisive. This means that it's time to stop doubting. Do not try - do not know, right? Try to hear the inner voice, the maternal instinct and built something more on intuitive decision-making. By myself I know, when the baby and a thousand cases are on hand at the same time, unexpectedly there is dexterity, speed of reactions, and at the same time the speed of thought increases. You seem to foresee the result and consequences of certain actions, both your own and the child. This alone makes you feel super.Photo: Gettyimages6. Take notes.Even supermoms sometimes need help and backup. For example, prepare in advance for a visit to the pediatrician - write down what worries you about your child's behavior and health, then you will not be at a loss in the doctor's office. Even if you were just preparing a speech outside the door, a stressful situation, which is a visit to the doctor, can provoke sudden amnesia. To avoid returning a hundred times and asking the same questions, write down questions before each visit to the pediatrician and the doctor's instructions while you are at the appointment.Photo: Gettyimages7. Do not hide your emotions. Paradoxically, this is so: it is not useful for a child to see only a smiling mother. Mom - a living person, she may be sad, scared, she may be upset or discouraged. The main thing is how Mom copes with these emotions. Because, no matter how we want, everything does not happen and it's always wonderful, and it's important for the child to understand this. Let's define your emotions, say to the kid aloud: "I was so sad, but now I'm better", "It offends me, please do not do it." If you explain your reactions, you will help the child understand his own emotions and feelings, teach him how to cope with them. Do not compare your child with other children. I beg you, do not give in to this race. "How, are you three years old, and you have not read it yet?" And we are already in French! "Forget the phrases like" Here Sonya is a fine fellow, he always removes his toys, but you are not. " You gave birth to a child to love, so love the way it is! Each child is unique and unique, and yours too! And do not let the mothers in the sandbox chastise your child, always be on his side. He is the best, because yours.Photo: Gettyimages9. Make time for yourself.The favorite "song" of most new mothers is "I have no time for myself, the baby takes everything." Honestly, not everyone. You don't have to do your hair every day, but you can relax in the bath for 20 minutes. Or arrange a beauty day for yourself once a week. This is where it is useful to remember your relatives and grandmothers, let them give you a rest and thus show their care. Nothing raises a woman's self-esteem like a beautiful, well-groomed reflection in the mirror. 10. Be happy together. And yet, despite all the difficulties, this is the most wonderful time and state - to be a mother. Enjoy it together with your baby, rejoice in his smiles and successes, show him the world, in a word, be happy!